American Pakistani, and I want to marry my 1st Cousin in Pakistan...OMG

[multani86]

Re: American Pakistani, and I want to marry my 1st Cousin in Pakistan…OMG

@redvelvet

Who wants to be judged or even asks for it? No one. Although his own post is riddled with judgments. But it’s all good…because those were not judgments…those were just a potpurri of adjectives…a string of similes and metaphors…writing devices if you will…to create a literary effect.

Why even treat this like a side project? A project…be it side or main…is something you invest energy in and attach expectations to…which is setting yourself up for heartache. If this had been a girl posting, people would have told her that the guy who is neither initiating contact nor responding isn’t interested so move on. How did Multani show the previous women in his life that he had moved on or was no longer interested in them? He can apply his own behavior in those past situations to the one he is currently facing with his cousin.

It wouldn’t have been so bad if she was at least responding to ur texts…she’s not even doing that. You keep reaching out to her and it isn’t working so why continue it? How about you just back off and focus on your self-reformation goals. It’ll keep u occupied with other things and put things (about her, her personality, you, your goals, and life) in a perspective you hadn’t seen earlier.

I read and reread your response. It was very thought provoking.

You are right though, had a girl been posting…and they guy were doing this behavior, the girl would be told; “just let the guy go. He’s not worth your time, effort, feelings, and emotions. You can do better – someone that respects you and treats you well.”

I have been told this, maybe at least a dozen times…the problem is my conscious and subconscious mind are misaligned. My rational self, is telling me to let go, but my subconscious is latching on. It’s only a matter of time though…before they will be on the same page.