American Pakistani, and I want to marry my 1st Cousin in Pakistan...OMG

[multani86]

Re: American Pakistani, and I want to marry my 1st Cousin in Pakistan…OMG

@Mezhgan

The issue of whether or not the girl is playing him is an important one (especially in giving advice) and something that he should consider. It’s important for him to determine whether the girl is playing him so that he can act accordingly. This cannot be one sided. It won’t do him any good if he is ready for marriage and sorts himself out and the girl is not. What is the purpose of him going with the flow or “wait and see where it goes” if the girl has no intention of marrying him? Surely, it’s better to know what her intentions are right away than to waste time with someone who may not want to marry him.

2 for 2 - I think you might need to be a therapist at this rate. I feel that to some degree I am being played, but at the same time it is what it is. I could cut this situation off cold turkey, but that’s not how I operate. I have this mentality for weathering out all situations of my life, especially relationship related, because in the end it makes me a stronger person and gives me greater control over my emotions. I also get to understand myself better, and learn what triggers these things internally. To cope with this roller coaster is more rewarding that any end result…positive or negative.

Character building is neither easy, nor free. It occurs on the road less traveled.

Although, that being said, if the girl has no serious intentions, and is lying to me about this all, then I don’t even want to “go with the flow” - because I am really wasting my time!

As cliche’ as it may sound, only time will tell.