Re: American looking for some advice,
I dont know if you're here seeking advice or here seeking knowledge about pakistani men in general....you havent really asked for advice, nor said anything like "gee, I'll have to try THAT" so its kind of unclear why you're here specifically yeah?
So I kind of hesitate to pour unasked for advice on you but heck if it was my gal, I'd fly out (WITH the daughter if she's not already there). And set out to accomplish what I explained before - corner the guy in a really friendly way. Even if I had to hock my house to buy the plane tickets.
If you need any assistance in what types of questions to ask to clarify the situation in front of your girl, dont hesitiate.