I think it's unfair to stereotype all Pakistanis or all Americans, any ethnicity really. I do think that it has to do with education and also respect begets respect. Now, with that said, there IS one thing that a LOT of Pakistani men are bad at (in my opinion) and white Americans are very good at. Pakistani men, like all other men, fall in love but never have the courage to stand up for their feelings in front of parents and too often dump the 'love of their lives' because they're too scared of what people might say or because parents don't approve. I think that that is unfair. White boys are very good about standing up in front of parents and admitting that they like someone.
gosh, that's so true. living in the UK i never really thought that i would end up with a pakistani husband let alone one that was born and bought up in pakistan but here i am - engaged for almost 4 years now and inshallah getting married soon. my fiance went through a terrible time with his parents for us. his parents are really very strict too so i have no idea where he found the courage to stand up to them and say that he had made his decision and they wouldn't be able to change his mind. the only problem they really had anyway was that they always thought they would be choosing their son's wives - it wasn't even about me! oh, and how it would look to everyone else that their son didn't have an arranged marriage.
haha, i think they have kept us waiting for marriage so long in the hope that we would have broken it off ourselves by now, so ner to them :p