Since I have been accused of Pakistanati male bashing I thought why not do it all the way. getting ready to get eggs and tomatoes thrown my way
I know that every race has good or bad guys but do you guys see a huge difference in general?
Do you guys think American guys are nicer and caring then Pakistani men? For example, they always open doors, most desi guys just walk right in. In an elevator white guys always wait until all the ladies are out, desi guys just walk right out. American guys stand up for you against their families where as most desi guys don’t?
Anyways feel free to write qualities of pakistani men, I just can’t think of any
I just watched a show where they interviewed a guy who left his lover/fiance of years because she was raped and he couldn't handle marrying her, she killed herself. Yukhhh. Thats the low lives i hear about.
I always open/hold the door for my wife and for any other female that may be going in the same building.
I always allow the ladies to enter/exit the elevator first, and hold the door if I see one may be going up and is rushing towards the elevator.
I stand up for the person who is right, whether my family or friends.
Now let’s talk about girls.
Most of the desi girls do not bother to say thank you like the American ladies would thank you when you open/hold the door for them or let them enter/exit the elevator. It’s very rare that they will even give a non-angry look when you do that for them, forget any smile or thank you. Sometimes I would see a desi girl staring at me (in a non-flirting way) and I would give a smile to be polite, she would just keep staring jaisay meney maan behan ki gaali dey dee ho. I don’t remember too many girls that gave me a polite smile in return when I smiled at them.
For example, they always open doors, most desi guys just walk right in. In an elevator white guys always wait until all the ladies are out, desi guys just walk right out.
All these examples you give just display sexist behavior.
I hope you do realize that people have been sued in courts of law for sexist behavior simply because they opened the door for a woman and she felt offended. This is 21st century. Feminist Movement Zindabad!
Presumably women can do anything a man can do (and better too!), so women should not expect (nor demand) such displays of masculine chivalry (or chauvinism?) to bracket the guy as "decent".
Just FYI.
The rest of your points are just rampant stereotyping so I can't get into that. It would be one thing if all desi men behave one way and all American men behave the other. What about American desi men, by the way? Are they the best of all worlds or worst of all worlds?
Nope, i cannot name any qualities that specifically pakistani men hold nor american men.
i’ve had all sorts of guys hold the doors opeN for me, i never really notice their ethnicity but i do try to say thanku wheneer i can. And i also try to hold the door open for people. wheN i hang out with the one desi banda he always opens the door and offers to carry my bag. and i dont know this crap abt waiting til they’re out of the elevator, whoever is at the front of the elevator will get out…
i'm not their baap ka nauker to open doors for them or to waste my time for them to walk like a snail to get to elevator. nor i like to stand up for anyone....in fact if i'm already standing up i'll sit down just to make a point which will be pointless in the end.
girls are just girls in the end. they want equality, they'll get all the equality they want from me. whether they can handle it or no is their siapa not mine.
My Pakistani husband never starts eating until I am at the table. He always gets up for me if I enter a room full of his relatives and finds place for me to sit comfortably. If anyone in his family has a situation that invloves me, he handles it with great balance and care. Lemme see, he also always dines at restaurants I like, lets me do whatever I want with his money…
Fine, he doesn’t open the door for me usually. But do I care? No. Because there are probably a hundred things he wished I did that I don’t do.
I know many Pakistani men, even some on GS, and of course family members, who are excellent husbands. I guess one must also have an appreciative and mature wife.
whether its white, black or brown so far ALHUMDULLAH men of any race gives me respect, and i also equally respect them.
in fact my first lesson of respect was taught by guys of my tech class.
no matter how good or bad the presentation was, the guys in that class threw paper balls on every presenter, and of course teacher didnt do or say any thing (training us for future). kher i was the only one whom they didnt throw any paper ball or anything.
american or not american..pakistani or not pakistani.. one learns these lil things from their home.. if they're well mannered.. ethnicity hardly matter.
i'm not their baap ka nauker to open doors for them or to waste my time for them to walk like a snail to get to elevator. nor i like to stand up for anyone....in fact if i'm already standing up i'll sit down just to make a point which will be pointless in the end.
girls are just girls in the end. they want equality, they'll get all the equality they want from me. whether they can handle it or no is theirsiapa not mine.
i think this was exactly what u were talking about, right serafina?
you cant stereotype all men as the same. some men are God's gift as they even see and admit faults of other men and help women address them, even greater men are those who stop their friends from hurting women, in all apsects and for all roles & levels of relationships.
Hmm. I truly understand your concerns, believe me. Here are a few things you can try doing:
get to know and talk to pakistani males. Talking won’t make you pregnant, and your mother is lying if she told you that.
stop watching pakistani dramas.
stop watching IDIOTIC (all) indian movies.
And whispers in the powder room, don’t listen a word they say.
Please follow that list, and come back in a few years when you have surpassed puberty. I will look forward to your reply, dear pimple faced, 10 year old friend.
For example, they always open doors, most desi guys just walk right in. In an elevator white guys always wait until all the ladies are out, desi guys just walk right out.
For some reason .... it reminds me difference b/w friend and best friend .
if u'll ask ur frnd .... U want pepsi .... he'll say .. okay sure .... or may be .. no ...
Best frnd will rather open ur fridge n say ....... Oye ...... Pepsi kahan chupayee hai ???
Bcoz of culture of segregation in subcontinent, desi guys in general will avoid interaction with women and consider it the right thing. They may think that opening doors or things of similar sort may be considered by girls as “line marring” thingie.
If you get a seat next to a man in plane, for a desi guy the decent thing might be to find you a female to sit next to you, for a america it will be try to make you comfortable.
