Re: American citizenship and second wife.
Your question is still a naive question, I am not putting anything anywhere I am being dragged into it. And yes I am not professionally qualified to sort this out amicably , that is why I asked her to talk to a lawyer instead and told her I will be happy to hook her up with some lawyer who has experience in dealing with these kinds of situations.
You are also right , things like these do not happen overnight.
The whole story is too long and too personal ( personal not for me but for her) to share here. I wanted to find out if it was at all possible to tell this guy to get his act together and come to senses . If he finds out that divorcing this wife and bringing the other one to US is not an option he can explore , this marriage could be saved. He still claims to be in love with this lady and claims that his parents forced him to marry that other girl back home when he went back to visit them. He says that he does not want to leave this one and his parents are forcing him to bring the other wife to America . But they do not know that this guy is good for nothing . He cannot afford to take care of this wife financially and is broke . They do not know that polygamy is against American law and he cannot legally bring the other one from Pakistan to USA and live happily ever after with two wives. He claims that all this pressure from her parents and his love for this one in USA made him become a drug addict because he could not handle the pressure and did not see any solution for this complicated situation. He claims he is working on getting rid of his drug habits and would compromise with the situation in this way that the one in Pakistan stays there and he would visit her from time to time. But her parents are now in a pickle because this second marriage was a watta satta shadi and if he does not bring the other one from Pakistan to USA her sister back home will face issues in her home.
I see this guy as an immature goof who does not know his way around life and gives in to pressures easily. I cannot help him and I cannot help that lady either , I guess.
It is all too very complicated for me to deal with. I have thrown the towel and would love to stay out of it and leave the matter to professionals who might be able to help these two unfortunate human beings.