My husband want to sale the house we are living in but as he is not in pak so has decided that all matters will be taken care by my parents who live in the same city of mine but my in-laws live in another state and money will be transferred to his father’s account, why? I will feel sooo insulting, if it happens what will my in laws think that I am not trust worthy.
How should I tell him that he should transfer it to my account and I am not gonna run away taking his money.
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No, You are absolutely reasonable.Maybe he has some other plans in mind, For Instance, Urgent property deal or whatsoever.I can understand your feelings, deliberately ask him that can you keep it in your account or maybe just describe your position to him.
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why this is even an issue?
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why this is even an issue?
I am not making this an issue but just feeling bad. What is the need of others when I am there for him.
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Is the hosue being sold actually owned by you and your husband (ie. one or both of your name is on the title/deed)? If so then I would also feel very insulted by this decision. I have no idea why on earth he would want money transferred to his parents account instead of putting it in your (his wife!) account.
How long have you been married? I would simply ask him (without being emotional) why he feels that the money should not be transferred to your account and see what he says.
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I would advise you to follow his instructions.
The less you are involved in this the less opportunity for grievances.
In fact, I wouldn't even let my family be involved in the sale of the property. There are way too many opportunities for disagreement unless they will be consulting with him every step of the way and in every minute detail.
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you must be newly married. they dont really trust their wives as much as their own parents.
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Was the house paid for partially by his father?
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tax evasion purpose , may be :)
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Did he buy the house before you met him or afterwards?
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you must be newly married. they dont really trust their wives as much as their own parents.
its been 3 yrs, now how long will he take to trust me.
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Is the hosue being sold actually owned by you and your husband (ie. one or both of your name is on the title/deed)? If so then I would also feel very insulted by this decision. I have no idea why on earth he would want money transferred to his parents account instead of putting it in your (his wife!) account.
its in his name only and bought 2 years ago.
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^ Ok, so the house was bought AFTER you two got married (you've been married 3 years).
Have you asked him why he would rather put the money in his dad's account and not yours?
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Obviously, I don't know your whole story but what you have shared, it sounds really bizarre.
- You guys bought the house together as a couple after marriage.
- Your husband wants your parents to do all the work for the sale of your house.
- And then deposit the money into his parents account instead of your's or a joint account.
My suggestion for your chat with him:
- If you don't have a joint account open one for shared assets and bills.
- If you already have a joint account, ask him why your home sale money is not being deposited in the joint account so that you understand his logic.
- After marriage, the couple needs to share assets bought together. According to Islam, the income earned by the husband belongs just as much to the wife as it does to the husband. Also, the wife has more haq on her own home than the husband's parents.
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Dal mein kuch kala hein.
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Its less stress on you.
My husband and I both often refer to his parents for large monetary movements/transfer.
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My husband and I both often refer to his parents for large monetary movements/transfer.
If you and your husband BOTH discussed and made a decision MUTUALLY to refer to his parents for large monetary movements/transfers....then there's absolutely nothing wrong with it.
Going by what OP wrote so far, the major difference here is that her husband made that decision without discussing it with her first.
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Did his father invest in it?
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I talked to him yesterday about this and he just said no. I realized it is because I neither live with him nor with his parents. The home is just his property; no one else has any share in it.
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Since he brought it after you got married it isn't just HIS property! It's yours and his.
Did he just say no without any explanation? I would get worried if my husband sold something of ours without asking me first.