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Islamically speaking, anything that he owns is yours too. And anything you own, is ONLY yours 
So that house is yours tooâŚ
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No, I know the reason for the sale of the house. You missed the point I am talking about.
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You know its these little things that will cause riffs in marriages.
Youâre seeing it as you donât trust me; i promise you heâll see it as you dont trust my parents.
And Trust wasnât really and issue here to begin with.
His parents arenât going to run away with the moneyâŚ
the cash will ultimately be used for your well being.
Its less responsibility to hold onto it.
Keep life simple.
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I am ok with his father keeping the money and giving it back when we buy another home. I didnât force him afterwards but I just felt insulted because he gave money to third person instead of me.
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Think of it this way. If he isnât keeping the money himself in his account, or a joint account why would he give it to you? The point of giving it to a third party is to ensure it is not spent correct? Otherwise if it not for that reason what is the reason?
I guess, I missed the point as well. I too thought it was because you felt that he didnât see the house as a shared asset & viewed the money as his own and/or didnât trust you. What makes you sad/hurt about this situation? Did you husband explain his logic behind his parentsâ account holding the money instead of yours/joint?
Either spouse making huge financial decisions without discussing with the other spouse are not doing justice to the partnership of marriage. If you already know the reason for the sale of ** your ** house, great. But itâs only fair for him to (at the very least) discuss with you where the money would be held temporarily until you bought the second home. It doesnât matter if he and/or lives else where.
To tell you the truth, I would feel the same way if my husband did that. Iâm glad that you are at peace with your husbandâs decision and hope your in-laws are trustworthy people who will return your money.
Itâs possible that his father is going to invest it, instead of the money just sitting in your/joint account.
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WaitâŚmarried for 3 years but you donât live with him? 
So since you have no share in the houseâŚbased on his logic, you have no share/right to his income or ANY other decision he makes in his life. Sounds like the thought process of a single guy.
Personally, I wouldnât put up with something like this. This is not about his parents running away with the money or him thinking that its best to keep it with a 3rd party so itâs not spent by either one of you wisely. Marriage is a partnership between 2 adults. The point is that this is a major financial decision that he made on his own. He does not think thereâs any reason to discuss this with you (ie. his wife). And to meâŚI see it as a lack of respect for you as his wife.
AnywayâŚat the end of the day its your marriage and you seem satisfied with his explanation/with the situation so thereâs not much left to say I guess.
I donât think I am the only one who missed the point?
What is your point?
I donât think I am the only one who missed the point?
What is your point?
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Guys we have to buy a big home and I agree with zafra, he wants his father to keep the money to make sure that I don´t spent them and he doesn´t run out of money to buy the home he is looking for. I just wanted him to trust me but I hope in future in sha Allah when my time comes he will trust me.
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thank you all for your inputs, i luv u all.
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Are you saying that your husbandâs assumption that you would spend it if it was in your account, is a fair assumption?
If thatâs the case, then I guess he made the best decision by keeping the money out of your hands but it wouldâve been nicer to discuss it with you before making that decision.
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yes this is his assumption and I know its not fair at all for which I feel bad but as he is not willing to give me either even after I discussed with him, so right now I have to just bear this instead of making an issue out of it to make it peaceful at home. Am I wrong now?
after discussing with you people I discussed with him and found that I should not make a big fuss if he doesn´t agree, correct?
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Woh third person uska baap hai!!! THE SEED HE CAME FROM!!! TUM ABHI KAAL AYEE HOOOOOOOOOOO
Sorry Iâm not being mean⌠there is no other way of saying this.
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None of us can or should be telling you whether or not YOU should make a big fuss over this. We can only share what we should do if this was our marriage.
If this was happening in my marriageâŚall he*l would break lose b/c I refuse to tolerate being disrespected like thisâŚespecially in front of my in-laws. I would hate for my husband to get the impression that Iâm ok with him making major decisions like this without discussing it with me first. But thatâs me. In your case, only you can decide whether or not this is worth creating a big fuss over. There is no right or wrong answer in this.
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Ditto^ The truth of the matter is no one can make a judgement call like this on YOUR relationship or tell you how you should feel.
Iâm with paheli on this one. Hell would break loose and my husband would mysteriously disappear.