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If you have tight finances , before you buy anything and I mean anything ask yourself "Can we live without it ?" If the answer is yes then do not buy it and you will live happily ever after.
Try this trick for a change and report back in six months.
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Be adults. You should both sit down individually and write out what things you think you need, and put them in order of importance, with estimated costs. Bring them together and compare priorities. It's not going to all be what YOU want, but it should be an agreed list of where your combined income can go. Create a budget and a plan/timeline. You have X amount of income to work with, you subtract your basic expenses (rent, food, utilities, transport). What's left is what you have to work with.
Don't be a selfish little child who wants instant gratification. Don't take on debt. Set some goals, accomplish them. Your marriage will be empowered and tighter for it.
What I think was not addressed in your fight, was that you are feeling despondent about finances and helpless to do anything about it. It's not about the THINGS. It's about satisfaction with yourself and THINGS won't bring that to you. That comes from taking control of your life and your joint future yourself, not having a tantrum because someone won't do it all for you.
Don't think about how he is failing to provide everything for you. Think about how you will contribute to your joint life together. Figure out your goals, make a plan, and work on achieving it together.
And if you can't find a job, can't increase income, then your contribution is to reduce expenses.
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No,he does not send money home yet coz we are not left with enough money in the end...and people its not about curtains and tables only,its that how he reacted and over reacted..he sed u go back to pakistan since u r not happy with me...should he sound like that?..anyways last night he came to me and said if u wanna go out for dinner or to any mall..i sed no..then he went down in car and called me that come and lets do grocery..then we went and things got better between us..now its all the very same but i feel that this time it was too much :( and still i cant forget what he sed..
Try putting yourself in his shoes ainee.
You don't really understand and are trying to play victim here. You're not the victim. You provoked him to say what he did - I understand it wasn't on purpose. But you hurt him enough where he lost control over himself. Is it necessary to push someone that far? He is supposed to just keep trying his entire life to meet your needs, apologize for not living up to your expectations and work his butt off to avoid more tanay at home? That's his job?
And one more thing:
If things are tight at home...get a job and help him out. Do something...don't whine about how incompetent he is at meeting your needs. He IS meeting your needs. He is supporting his home. Your job is to be a partner...not another problem in his life.
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thank u all for good advices:)