Re: am i wrong ...
marriage is about compromises ;-)
go to his place first so that your in-laws are happy and they do the rasams of kheer/cake/sweet eating, photos etc. and then after a couple of hours you can leave for the hotel. I don't think he should have a problem with that. People in Pak do it all the time where they go to a hotel so it's perfectly normal and has been adopted by the Pak culture as normal. Now if his family is super conservative and doesn't believe in this norm then you might want to re-think your decision. Otherwise as far as I know most people in Pak don't have an issue w/ it
I was gonna say the same .......:)