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I say walk out on the bumb. He’s nice…sweet? So what…so is the puppy dog down the street.
Easier said than done, I understand. But this is hardly acceptable. It boils down to this: will he change for you? Will things ever get better, if they haven’t so far?
Relax. Some people live in the realworld, not a media-induced sterotype.
Abuse is there, and it’s a nasty problem of ours that we tend to white wash it. But it’s not ALL abuse. Join the real world bud.
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Well. Ive told him he can only go out with his friends once a month and the drinkings gotta stop and hes gotta sort his job. Thats the only way that it can work and he knows it.
Thanks everyone for proving me right. I just wanted to know wether I was over reacting or not just in case it led to a separation.
Things are back to being calm.......for now.
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so the cycle has started again…for your sake Ebrima I hope he learns once in for all. He must realize that you have given him a 2nd chance and should not take it lightly. Again you are very brave for putting up with him :k:
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hello, am new on Gupshup and was going through your post. It is certainly sad to know what you are going through, but the stark reality here is that your hubby will be on the losing end, since he is the one who relies on you financially.He will not let go of you so easily, and will continue to play these games with you. Once a cheater, always a cheater...until something drastic happens (like a miracle) and he changes. It is indeed not easy to live or raise your kids alone as a single parent, but then again it is far better than living the torture everyday either for yourself or your kids. Your hubby is and will continue to take you for granted, he knows your weaknesses and is playing with those. What you have to understand here is whether you want to be played upon, whether you want your kids to grow in an unhealthy environment which will have a bad impact on their lives later on, whether you want to waste your emotions, energy and time on such a man who you are never sure of as to what he will do the next moment. Think hard and think wise! May Allah help you and bless you!
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u KNOW he wont stop.
you dont need him…you KNOW that. WHY are u still with him? are you afraid of social consequences? what people will say? or do u seriously think that a women divorced and with kids cannot survive on her own…esp when she is earning the money. do u think your children will fare better under a messed up family where the father is a drunk or is it better to raise them without witnessing a father in such a state.
sooner or later they will find out the reason you left your husband but still they wont be AS much affected as they will have been if the witnessed all that in person…In my opinion.
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sara - you bet i will beat the heck out of him that he will only say my name when he looks at any other girl *grin
sara i refuse to take abuse thats my problem and as my willy says "i am alergic to BS" ... I am alergic to men's BS big time. my philosophy who gives you problems like that give him problems.... anywayz
shweetdreamz .... i am trying to be a little positive here with ebrima she is trying really hard to work this out... I truly hope things go well as she has mentioned... but yeah you are right .... its only time when he does something else again...