Am I taking a really extreme step?

[Mirch]

@tammy8604

Jaadugar, no one here on this forum is a professional therapist. I strongly advice seeking help from a marriage counselor, they can really help. And since you’re well-off, you can easily afford it. Don’t ruin your marriage by listening to peoples advice on this forum who don’t have a clue about your life in reality and the actual problems. No one here knows the whole story, obviously your wife will also have her side. My sincere advice is to get professional help. Therapists can really do wonders. You need to save your marriage,and marriage counselor wont hurt. It’s worth a try.

This is the only reasonable advice so far.
Nobody here knows how to handle these kinds of situations. The ones who are not married are being either feminist or male chauvinist.
The ones who are married are looking at it from one sided looking glass.
Your situation is not as easy as it seems. It has all taken many years to come to the point where you filled separation papers.
You can surely mend the fences temporarily, or put a band aid to stop the bleeding but now this situation is at a point where you too need professional help . If you take initiative to control the damage or she gives in for now and things go back to normal, you will face the same situation again soon (Allah na karay) . ( May Allah be your , your wife’s and your kids protector. Ameen.