Re: Am I taking a really extreme step?
Well I lost my original post. But anyway you are a stronger man than I. I would not deal with such childish stupidity for so long. If she pulled this regularly she would be divorced and sitting at home right now. As for your situation I have no advice to give or offer of help.
As for the women here, ignore them. You are to be blamed for everything that goes wrong in a marriage. Consider it part of the insecurities of a desi woman. You do not have to defend yourself to these harpies.