That is my point entirely. What would a bunch of people over the internet know about your situation other than what you state. And its obvious to all that Life 1 is a support group for women who want their actions validated. The attitude I speak of is not related to your actions with your fiance. Rather it is related to why do you need to vent it on line and with random people who will agree with you. If you have an issue with your husband you should talk to him. Not to random people on the net.
maybe you should stay away from this section of the forum seeing as youre a "stranger" but still contributing to the disussion and at the same time seem annoyed that people will come online to discuss their issues, its quite simple, just dont reply :)
where does it say in islam wait 1 year after someone dies to wed...theres no damn reason not to marry. yes ok, if she had died 2 days ago, then u wait a while maybe, however theres no such rule anyway.
and isnt it your daddi....not his. why he care so much. im assuming he wants a october wedding for his own reasons, and is using YOUR daddis death as a valid one.
Yes i would be annoyed too about the take or leave comment.
" with regards to when to have it, we've discussed that wel leave it to the elders, and let them decide, they know our wishes"
Let me gently interject -
It appears you still want to ensure that he gives in as much as you do - hence the "mutual" decision to leave it to the elders? I am trying to anticipate down the road, when (or if) this disagreement comes up again. Please do not make a big issue of it then. Sometimes it is not about who is right or wrong in small matters. Let him have this victory. It is all good. As the wise Enig said, you can be in charge once you are married :)
maybe you should stay away from this section of the forum seeing as youre a "stranger" but still contributing to the disussion and at the same time seem annoyed that people will come online to discuss their issues, its quite simple, just dont reply :)
The beauty of advice is that sometimes it is stuff you really don't wish to hear. But I shall oblige those who seek validation.