Am I making a mistake?

[MustafaQuraishi]

Re: Am I making a mistake?

@Sehrysh

This is a PERFECT example of how different perspectives and different lenses look at the exact same scenario completely different.

You’re thinking OMG, she’s loco and high maintenance for wanting to throw in the towel for a relationship each has invested 5 years in. Her actions, in not asking him for his input shows a lack of commitment and respect for HIM. To you, these are red flags because I assume you think she’s not giving the relationship the importance it deserves. And your perspective is not solely based on gender lines – both guys and girls may read the situation this way.

Other people, and again both guys and girls included, are looking at the original post and thinking: He is not asking, he’s demanding (whether they be small or big things) and he’s screaming and yelling to get his way and they see his actions as him disrespecting the girl and her family that way. We see his disrespect and behaviour as a red flag.

Again, we don’t know where the truth lies – but it just shows that the same situation has multiple perspectives.

there are always 3 sides of the story at GS

1. Told by OP
2. From the other-half perspecitve
3. The real story …

bottom line, you should always give benefit of doubt to the other side of the story as well whenever such threads come up.