Am I making a mistake?

[pak2015]

Re: Am I making a mistake?

@Sehrysh

This is a PERFECT example of how different perspectives and different lenses look at the exact same scenario completely different.

You’re thinking OMG, she’s loco and high maintenance for wanting to throw in the towel for a relationship each has invested 5 years in. Her actions, in not asking him for his input shows a lack of commitment and respect for HIM. To you, these are red flags because I assume you think she’s not giving the relationship the importance it deserves. And your perspective is not solely based on gender lines – both guys and girls may read the situation this way.

Other people, and again both guys and girls included, are looking at the original post and thinking: He is not asking, he’s demanding (whether they be small or big things) and he’s screaming and yelling to get his way and they see his actions as him disrespecting the girl and her family that way. We see his disrespect and behaviour as a red flag.

Again, we don’t know where the truth lies – but it just shows that the same situation has multiple perspectives.

have you not ever gotten into an argument? if it gets really heated yes it can lead to raising one’s voice and people often get emotional and when emotional very difficult to stay rational..people often say things they dont necessarily mean during the heat of moment..i think we’ve all done it before..yes when its constant and unprovoked it becomes a red flag, otherwise its just a heated argument and should not be used as a sole basis for ending a 5 year relationship