Am I making a mistake?

[Laiha]

Re: Am I making a mistake?

@pak2015

I did not get a sense at all that he was making ridiculous demands like you mentioned which yes would be messed up if he did. They’re fighting over simple things like whether to have songs at mehndi and whether to video record their wedding which seem like were first decided unilaterally by the girl without his input and when he realized she wasn’t going to include those things he’s now saying he wants those things. These are NOT ridiculous demands, maybe he’s trying to create memories for what’s suppose to be a once in a lifetime event. What I did find ridiculous was her not at all soliciting her future husband’s input and suggestions in any of the wedding planning and saying he doesnt have a right to comment on it until after he started to get upset. I see his behavior being more reactive to her. Not condoning his behavior because he should remain more level headed but when people are upset especially during moments of stress they often don’t handle it the best way (hence him yelling and putting her down). We have all done it.

I have to say I agree with this. Asking for a video or dances (from their own side) isn’t anything unusual in this day and age.
I don’t recall reading anywhere that he is demanding an Armani suit or gold gifts for his family etc.
These sound like logistical issues that are not being handled well. I am surprised that OP would consider calling it quits based on what she has written.