Re: Am I making a mistake?
We will have to agree to disagree.
Because if I flipped this around and said then she and her family can scream and yell and demand that the valima must be hosted at the Ritz (there’s no Ritz in PK, is there?); that she get a Bunto Kazmi (which btw is a $10,000 USD dress), that her side must be permitted to invite 500 guests, than that would be acceptable and not raise any red flags about the type of person she is, right?
We’ve had girls posting about - OMG, my nand/SIL is having her baraat on the same day as me; she’s wearing the same colour as me; my MIL didn’t let me pick my shaadi ka jora; MIL won’t let me choose the makeup salon for my makeup - notice these are petty issues and most people told the GIRL she was wrong. That the wedding day is a single day and should not be made into a conflict zone. The same girls were told if her in-laws are hosting it, the GIRL should defer to the guy’s family and graciously accept what she’s being given because it’s about the marriage and NOT the wedding day.
If it was a girl, who screamed/yelled/cried - and her guy posted this thread, we’d call her out on it and tell him to figure out whether this is temporary madness or whether it’s an indication of diva-behavior that will cause conflict later? If it’s temporary, then she should STILL apologize for her behavior and back down on her demands and he should not concede because his mom and sisters might have their own dreams about how to host the wedding. If it’s an indicator of her personality – I’d tell him to rethink the wedding.
^ This! It’s less about the demands and more about the treatment of the other person and the ME and MINE versus YOU and YOURS attitude.