Am I making a mistake?

[geminifromkhi]

Re: Am I making a mistake?

@ami1

Hey guys. I need your help. I’m a 24 year old old and I’ve been in a relationship with this guy for over 5 years. Our parents knew from the start and they were fine with it. Now we’re finally going to get married. And I feel like I’m making a mistake since he’s not what he used to be. He’s totally changed and now it just feels like he’s doing this for the sake of just getting married as part of social norms. Anyways he’s been acting really weird like creating issues everyday about where he wants the wedding, what he wants the wedding to be like and stuff along these lines. I don’t think he has a right to comment on these things because the girls parents decide these things. I’ve talked to my parents and we changed the wedding location to where he wanted it to be. Then he started issues about mehndi and dances on mehndi. My family isn’t into mehndi dances but they still agreed. And latest issue is photography.** I told him I don’t want video on the wedding and then he started yelling at me.**
**He thinks he’s perfect and everything about him is perfect and his family. **And we’re some sort of losers or something. I’ve tried talking to him but he doesn’t seem to think there’s a problem.
I’m worried because I chose him.. and now I feel like I can’t even back off. I don’t even know if I want to back off.
I studied medicine and worked really hard to get where I am in life because my biggest fear was ending up with a controlling and mean guy. I wanted to have a backup option like working so I don’t have to ask anyone for anything. But I feel like I made a huge mistake and I ended up exactly where I didn’t want to.
but then he’s supportive of my career too.. like he said he’d move to America If I get a job there. So I don’t know. Can someone please give me their point of view?
I mean he should just be happy that our parents agreed instantly. Am I being over sensitive?

His behavior seems abnormal and it seems like he is having second thoughts about marriage. I hope I am wrong. Guys have no problem in being in a relationship, but once they get married to their girlfriends, I think the novelty of the relationship wears off. Talk it out with him. Better to leave him now than to cry all life.