Am I making a mistake?

[Sehrysh]

Re: Am I making a mistake?

@pak2015

?? she’s been with the guy for 5 years, this isnt an arranged marriage type of situation where she doesn’t know the guy that well..that’s a long time to judge someone’s character and personality, now comes the time to actually commit and she’s freaking out and having doubts (where were the doubts the last 5 years..), if she still doesn’t know the guy’s character then thats on her for wasting his time and her own time if she is just going to have doubts every time she faces bumps in the road

OP, you’ve been with him for this long, you likely know him the best out of anyone, as long as he’s never physically or constantly verbally abused you in the past 5 years then apni relationship ko nibhao..the grass is NOT greener on the other side, its going to be EXTREMELY difficult at times, you two will have heated arguments and fights, both of you will have to adjust A LOT after marriage until you figure out what works between you two–this is NORMAL.

Scenario #1](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=1) is a laalchi insaan who cares only for himself. Why on earth would anyone want to be with someone like that? And as far as knowing someone for 5 years, sometimes it’s major life decisions/milestones that makes the inner ugly come out and shows the true face of a person. While they’re dating, most people put their best foot forward, because dating is not marriage and dating is to impress the other person.

My opinion (and only my opinion) - her response should be predicated on his intent - why is he behaving the way he is. If she determines he’s a greedy and insensitive guy, why tie yourself like that to someone?

As for working on a relationship and compromising - I’m not seeing where catering to someone’s greed or tolerating their unreasonable and rude tantrums involves compromise. That’s just foolish.