Am I doing the right thing? MIL drama

[Princess1983]

Re: Am I doing the right thing? MIL drama

@Deeba1234

Where is the ‘abandonment’?? Simply living in another home isn’t abandoning your parents (then aren’t daughters abandoning their parents as well )

A mother doesn’t have the right to expect her son NOT to sleep with his wife.. That is bizarre and overstepping boundaries.. A woman should be sleeping in a room with her own husband, not her grown son..

ANY doctor here would say it’s understandable if the OP is depressed as well.. What her MIL is doing is not normal, it’s obsessional and we can’t control what others do but we can speak out or how will there ever be any chance of change?? Just ignoring things for years on end can and does cause depression.. It is NOT healthy or constructive..

The OP being ‘bothered’ about how the other girls are treated shows she’s a good person and has empathy.. A quality some ppl on GS seem to need to learn.. I wonder how they’d like to be on the receiving end of bad treatment whilst others turn a blind eye..

Deeba, thank you for the response.

I’ve got no problems with my husband splitting time between Pak/UK if he can make it work then that’s up to him. When we visited Pak he actually flew out way before me and little one did; so he could spend time with family.

As for sleeping in his Mothers room-my MIL was the one to critisise another family member for doing the same so I’m not even sure why she wants to do such a thing.

As for things changing with ILs. Not sure if that’s possible as they’ve just arranged my BILs marriage and although I cannot see why the match has been done; I’m staying quiet. I’ve asked my husband if his brother has been consulted; and that’s it. I’ve asked my BIL and he says he hopes his parents know best. That’s good enough for me as I feel I’ve done my duty as his brothers wife. As for my SILs-one isn’t happy with her engagement, she told me and I told my ILs. They said she’ll have to grow into it. I don’t want her to resent her brother; so I’ve told him too. He doesn’t think his parents will change. It’s a vicious cycle Deeba; I wouldn’t want any woman to feel pressured. It’s their life too you know.

Turning a blind eye isn’t an opinion to me; I wouldn’t want someone to turn a blind eye to something like that happening to me.