Re: Am I doing the right thing? MIL drama
Haha, lovely. If people decide to judge based on their own opinions and perceptions and OWN threshold of crap they take that’s up to them. What I won’t have is someone judging me and deciding based on their own thoughts that I must be the one causing problems.
Why is it that in today’s society if a woman wants to sort out an issue so it doesn’t cause further issues down the line she’s the bad one? Rather than looking at the problems with society leaning towards a backward pre-Islamic look on life and how DILs need to be like the ones off Indian Television who constantly give qurbanis and don’t live for themselves? Why should someone be able to treat anyone with less respect than is given?
As for living separately; even if I was in Pakistan there’s no actual Islamic reason to live in a joint family unless your husband is expected to take out debt to support you. As long as ones son is keeping up his responsibilities (which I’ve never stopped him from doing but hey I’m the bad one here ain’t I) he can do so from separate dwellings. And no this isn’t some bull churned out by a Western gora.
So anyone else wana take a pop? Bring it. I’m sick to the back teeth of having to feel guilty for actually not agreeing to backward thinking, or wanting to live a life of peace and quiet without having others dictate what I should do and feel.
Boohoo for all the MILs-it must such to have DILs that come from Hell like me.
I don’t need sympathy; BUT I guess some feel the need to make others feel below them; no?
As for the zulm; I wish you and your family never have to go through problems such as mine.