Am I being too sensitive or unreasonable?

Sara516 · June 15, 2012, 8:40pm

Re: Am I being too sensitive or unreasonable?

I remember when I was living with my parents, I used to drive them whenever, they had to use a highway. This aunty who lived sort of lose to us always made an excuse about her daughter being busy with school or whatever. In the end I would always or majority of the time end up giving her a ride too. When I moved away and mom needed a ride, she became quite stinky and say things here n there that would hurt my mom. If she’d make excuse for not coming, other people would tell her to take a ride with that certain aunty (ofcourse no one was aware of her stinky behavior). Thank fully, my brother quickly stepped in and started taking her to places, he also taught my mother alternative routes she can use and not worry about the highway. When the aunty saw my brother has started taking mom, she again started making excuses for her daughter not being able to take her. Long story short, my mom was quite fed up with her drama so to minimize the drama, she decided to reduce this car pool thing, she would just say brother has plans and she is not sure if they can accommodate her. Yes, there are still times when she will force a car pooling deal. I am not saying she is all bad, like all of us she has her goods and bads.

I don’t think, my story is related to your issues. But car pooling has its own issues, especially when someone starts making judgement/taunting comments, even when you are trying not to be a burden on an other person. I would simply suggest, if you can not manage the trip on your own, just make an excuse. If I was in your place, I wouldn’t be car pooling with this person no matter how close of a friends we are. Unfortunately, life is easier and relationships are better when you are not dependent on people.

I don’t think I’ve ever been this dramaybazi or had a bad attitude towards anyone… on the other hand, when we didn’t have a car, my husband would encourage me to ask others if htey can pick me up and/or drop me off, which I never really liked doing (because these were ppl I hardly knew/wasn’t close to). i was never comfortable asking though.

Honestly, I hate having to depend on anyone, I really do. Back when I was living wiht my parents, my father couldnt’ drive at night, my mother didn’t drive at all, and they would never let me ride with anyone else; public trasnportation was out of the question..so…yeah, I hated not being able to do anything, either limitations set by others or myself… so I try not to be like that.

thank you, someone who knows!