You're right but i think if this is her wedding she should start it by being humble? :) i mean if she is selfless maybe God will reward her for her bravery and her openness. Forgiving someone and moving on is in our religion as well, even the prophet pardoned his conspirators. We have too much hatred going on in our culture. Hate this, hate that, i mean all the aunties get together in one room and they gossip about which girl is banging her college friends and stuff. Well if you dont want it its still ok but have some heart.
Pendu, the issue here is not pardoning. The cousin has not asked Jalebi for forgiveness. She has asked Jalebi to do a joint-dholki. And Jalebi mentioned that the main purpose is to reduce the cost. Separate event cost greater than joint events.
Jalebi told the cousin that she didn't want a joint-dholki......and the cousin persisted. There's no gunnah for people to have separate events. Also, even in Islam....it is said that if you go to visit someone.....and if you can tell that the host is in a bad mood....or in no mood to invite you inside.....you shouldn't burden or impose upon him. This is how I look at it. If someone's heart is not into something......then why continue imposing, pressurizing the person? It's not right. It's no sin to refuse a dholki.....but it IS considered tactless/disrespectful for someone to ignore your wishes as if they didn't hear you or chose not to hear you.