i agree its not her “duty” to live with the inlaws - and she created hell in our family so in the end my parents begged my brother to move out. the day he left he hugged my parents and cried… he is not his wife’s ghulam but at the end of the day, it was a choice between divorce or moving out and my parents rathered he moved out. anyway all of that is in the past, but at the moment its something that i keep thinking about as i know i will not be living with them for long and then they will be completely alone.
as regards to the clothes for my neices, i have another neice (my sisters little girl) and i wanted them all to wear the same. i will enquire about the dresses and make them for them altogether but i do not want to leave till a few days before the wedding. I told my bhabhi yday about the outfits and said i’d find out price etc. she said that my neices are v.fussy and don’t wear clothes picked by anyone and was shocked when i said i’ve already shown them and they love them. i will just tell her if and when i order them, and say i don’t want money i’m just letting her know and tell her which day i want them to wear them.
go to www.jazelz.com you will see why i am so excited about these clothes…!! it is the pink lengha with fitted sleeveless top.. so gorgeous.
everyone may think i’m just being fussy about her looking a certain way… the thing that hurt the most was the fact that she showed such little excitement… and the feeling i got from her was my wedding is not important.
me and my parents are paying for the majority of the wedding (my clothes, jewellery, venue, mehndi arrangements, gifts for inlaws etc)… but my brother asked to pay for the catering… if his wife has an issue with that really it should be discussed between them.. she shouldn’t set out to distance herself from the wedding because of this.
after a good nights sleep i am not so bothered about the clothes… i just want her to be excited about this wedding. i have tried involving her before now.. but she says she’s always busy to go anywhere with me…