Re: am i an abcd?
All it means that they should not have married to each other. Especially without clarifying or ironing out some details.
All it means that they should not have married to each other. Especially without clarifying or ironing out some details.
Yeah, like* citizenship-status*. Methinks Madame Fobby-Bhabi will be in deep [edit] when her husband finds out she can't get him a green-card (I'm assuming that's the only reason Monsieur Paindoo deigned to marry an ABCD)!
Yeah, like* citizenship-status*. Methinks Madame Fobby-Bhabi will be in deep $hit when her husband finds out she can't get him a green-card (I'm assuming that's the only reason Monsieur Paindoo agreed to marry an ABCD)!
You thinking too much. :D
In this play he did not marry for citizenship. Not shown so far.
Nor he is a paindoo in this play.
The details I talked about was post marriage life and their life style expectations.
You thinkingtoo much. :D
It's a bad habit I picked up in the States.
In this play he did not marry for citizenship. Not shown so far.
Only assumed, until now?
Nor he is a paindoo in this play.
The details I talked about was post marriage life and their life style expectations.
You're right; compared to his fellow paindoos, the dude must look like James effing Bond! Suave!
It's a bad habit I picked up in the States.
Only assumed, until now?
You're right; compared to his fellow paindoos, the dude must look like James effing Bond! Suave!
Try to make some sense please. Sarcastic posts all the time does not make anyone look smart. :)
Re: am i an abcd?
I was really liking this drama until they took this ridiculous stance of ridiculing women who were born abroad and are more Americanized.
Very offended by how these moti aunties who write these dramas in their fazool time propogate these ridiculous myths of what terrible women we are. I'd like to get my hands on the writer.
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^ they just need to make problems occur in the marriage and for them the easiest way is by adding a women who is born abroad.....since apparently that is what we are good at.......we think way too much for our own good.....
you go chica.
I am tired of negative characterization of ppl abroad
but its always easy in desi dramas to point fingers elsewhere
the burgers are bad, the rich are evil, the expats are bad
but then why watch such crap TV anyways?
well thats exactly my point: they're trying their hardest to make her look evill and just plain bad new but EVERYTHING SHE SAYS IS LOGICAL! lol. thats why i was confused because her "badness" is actually my normal stance on things (minus the party till 2am part). soo in essence they're not really creating this negative image...its just the way an average girl from amreeka thinks. equality. and the reaction the hubby gives to everything makes me laugh cuz it really shouldn't be soo offending that she refuses to iron his clothes. lol. thank god my hubby dearest never even bothered asking me to do laundry or ironing for him...he knows that he should be thankful that i cook for him n make haath ki rotis n even parathas on weekends!
i did not watch the clip and am answering the questions as if they were there without a drama attached to it
- ABCD girl wants to wear the same type of clothes she wore BEFORE shadi. hubby knew her beforehand so no reason to expect a change in dressing style.
*People change their views over time so then it is up to the couple to manage where they will adapt and where they will not, but if u knew the person and they are the way they are, then asking them to change for you is a little dodgy. *
Exactly. People do change but let's look at the dialogue. He didn't say 'I've changed my views', he said 'Before, you weren't mrs. so and so'.
And that is actually the same view a lot of Pakistani guys have. They are attracted to one thing but that wouldn't fly after marriage because then other men might be attracted to that too. Basically saying that the only reason she dressed that way was not because that was her style or what she liked or that she did it for herself but she purely did it to attract men and therefore she shouldn't now. He's basically insinuating his wife was slutty before marriage.. so what the hell? why marry her if you had that opinion.
I was really liking this drama until they took this ridiculous stance of ridiculing women who were born abroad and are more Americanized.
Very offended by how these moti aunties who write these dramas in their fazool time propogate these ridiculous myths of what terrible women we are. I'd like to get my hands on the writer.
She's not really an ABCD though. Even Humuyun Saeed's character says that Mahroush is born and raised in Pakistan, but she's more Western than real Western girls.
In any case, Arfeen is getting what he deserves. He's shakki and narrow-minded since day one, which is why he divorced his first wife ... but his crap ain't flying with wife #2.
Re: am i an abcd?
If that is the case why the hell did he get married? He could have gotten laid on the market rate as well. Good grief.
and now the accent makes sense… 
Wait so if shes’ not an ABCD then why this whole discussion on ABCD girls?
Originally Posted by diwana You thinkingtoo much
It's a bad habit I picked up in the States.
Probably in between waiting for passengers at LGA and standing in line for gyros.
Try to make some sense please. Sarcastic posts all the time does not make anyone look smart. :)
I think someone isn't getting enough passengers on their Cab or they aren't getting "enough" elsewhere ;)
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As mentioned by others, Arfin was aware of Mahroush's style of dressing and he KNEW and if it were going to be such a problem, he shouldn't have married her.
There's nothing wrong with a wife asking about how money is being spent, however if she doesn't want the husband to send any money at all to his family.....that's not right.
So, he needs to be flexible.......but then again so does she. He sounds indifferent and uninterested at times.............and her tone of voice sounds harsh sometimes. She can also try to find ways to compromise. Instead of having him cook/arrange for food all the time........she can even prepare and freeze meals during the weekend to be used for later use. It's not right of her to dump a task entirely upon him and nor is it right for him to expect only her to handle the cooking just because she is now his wife.
***********What I find ironic is that he fell in love with his cousin, Sabah, because of her INDEPENDENT attitude and STRONG thinking. Sabah did not want to be conservative and meek like Aarfin's sisters. She sought higher education, saw nothing wrong in talking to men, and have overall liberal thinking. He's attracted to Sabah's independence and strong personality................................but.........................can't seem to stand these SAME qualities in Maroush.
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^ Because Mahroush stands up to him whereas Saba was very soft.
^ Because Mahroush stands up to him whereas Saba was very soft.
That's true. She was softer. But Sabah still stood up to the Elders of the family. She didn't stand up to him because such an occasion never really arose. The only real issue between her and Arfin was when the accusation of her having an affair with Adil came up. And in that case, she stood up (had to stand up to him and the whole family) because she was indeed innocent.
But at earlier points in the drama, I think she does make her bold opinions/views known to elders (much to their dismay)......though she does it in a more polite manner than Mahroush, but it's still strong.
He just can't handle Mahroush's level of independence and strong thinking. He likes women who have confident/independent/open-minded thinking (not like own sisters)............but his image of a confident women is one who also will not question finances and will entirely manage the stereotypical female responsibilities/household duties. Sabah was different because she questioned things/went against the grain of his family, and talked pretty philosophical things........but that's as far as he would have wanted it to go. I wonder if he'd have gotten upset at Sabah if she thought that it would be okay for him to cook dinner at times......and if she questioned him about finances. Sure, one might argue that Sabah may not do these things. But if she DID........would he be just as upset a he was at Maroush.....or would he be forgiving because he's soooo in love with her? ****He was never in love/or attracted to Mahroush, so that make it harder for him to tolerate her.
Exactly. People do change but let's look at the dialogue. He didn't say 'I've changed my views', he said 'Before, you weren't mrs. so and so'.
And that is actually the same view a lot of Pakistani guys have. They are attracted to one thing but that wouldn't fly after marriage because then other men might be attracted to that too. Basically saying that the only reason she dressed that way was not because that was her style or what she liked or that she did it for herself but she purely did it to attract men and therefore she shouldn't now. He's basically insinuating his wife was slutty before marriage.. so what the hell? why marry her if you had that opinion.
Good point, I was speaking in general terms and did not see the clip. I am horribly terribly allergic to desi dramas and soap operas, if someone ever needs to get info out of me, tie me up and make me watch pakistani dramas or yank or aussie soaps, I will admit to anything to get out of it
But yes based on the scenario you have posted, the dude is a jackass, needs to be wrapped in a burlap sack with 23 rats and then the sack gently beaten with sticks for 90 seconds and then stop for 2 minutes then gently beaten again for 30 seconds again repeat 5 times and roll sahibzada home..
I will now leave this thread since people are discussing the characters, and just reading that is giving me palpitations.
I think someone isn't getting enough passengers on their Cab or they aren't getting "enough" elsewhere ;)
:)