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^which aunt?
khala, phoopi, taayi, chachi, maami?
i think your khalas and phoopis are your mehrams, the rest are not. someone please correct me if that's wrong.
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Yep, you're right..... he is a mehrum for his khaalas and phoophis.
Finally a sane response.
As for the people here (mainly women) parroting mehram non-mehram themselves don’t follow that code in their life I bet. How many of you women who are preaching the mehram thing here don’t cover your hair infront of a non-mehram (your cousin or any male other than the non-prohibited)) or how many wear a scarf whether in Pakistan or US or UK or whatever? Thats right, not many. Before preaching mehram non-mehram apnay collars may jhankeeay! :halo:
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I vigorously condemn the people saying: 'Don't do it' as if you folks are all pure and sinless and have the right to tell **anyone **what to do.
The question was a very very simple one:
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So, considering the circumstances, is this allowed islamically?
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And the answer is even simpler:
Islamically, no, it is not allowed.
So what on earth is all this nonsense about paedophiles and being ashamed because 'it's ramadan'? The guy asks a simple question, and there's a deluge of criticism and scandal at what he's said.
Typical Pakistanis - instead of looking at the huge log in your own eye you look at the speck in your brother's eye!
Regards the status of aunts in Pakistan, those aunts with whom you are related by blood (i.e. *your father's sister or your mother's sister) are *mehram to you - massaging their feet should be a-ok!
Those whom you are not related by blood (*i.e. *your uncle's wife) are *na-mehram *to you.
Salam.
I have some concerns about a situation between my older cousin and I. I am 17 years old and my female cousin is 27.
My cousin asked me to rubb her feet one day after she came back from work. She was really tired and asked if i can do her a favor.
I didn't know what to disrespect her or anything so i did it .Knowing that shes my older cousin, i was not shy to do so. If it was a younger cousin of my, then it might feel awkward. She was older and someone i looked up to , so i was comfortable with it.
please, this was done only for her relief and to have her feel comfortable from her pain.
So, considering the circumstances, is this allowed islamically?
You are a good boy. Never disrespect the older female cousins. But if its an older MALE cousin asking to rub, RUN, RUN, RUN. I have heard terrible stories from people.
You are a good boy. Never disrespect the older female cousins. But if its an older MALE cousin asking to rub, RUN, RUN, RUN. I have heard terrible stories from people.
yes of corase. lol
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My aunt asked me too....but i didn't go ahead with it cause i was alil nervous.
some of the responses in this thread (the perverted ones to be specific) are disgusting.
islamically speaking, yes she's a na-mehram and he cannot be giving her foot massages. however, do people REALLY think what's halal and haram in every single thing they do? in many desi families, cousins are regarded as younger siblings. i have cousins who are now 15 and 20 but since i have seen them since they were babies and i grew up with them being the 'older' sister, i STILL look at them like they are my little brothers and care for them. maybe his cousin has the SAME mentality where she looks at him as a kid, not a 17 year old cousin, and asked for a foot massage. it's inappropriate and not allowed in islam, realistic answer.. but to say things like touch her here and there or to say she's a pedophile, or whatever other stuff that was said here, is pretty shameful.
i agree my lil brother is 16 and my older cousin is 27...if she asked him to rub her feet no one in our fam would be like omg whats this...i mean she could ask him to daba her legs too and its ok...she sees him as a kid anyway...so it depends on the intentions...the fact u felt weird about it means tht intentions from somewhere wer not pure..
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There is a thing called "age appropriateness". Once cousins and even siblings are "baligh" young men and women should act according to their age. Even around my brothers, I try to be appropriate and vice versa. It certainly doenst mean i love them any less or they love me less... Holding hands, slapping/kicking each other, being "free" was cute until a certain age, but once you start looking different i.e. mature, dealing each other with respect comes naturally, and prevents any unnecessary problems. The little cousins who grew up before my eyes are now in their teens, and i find it cute that they act all mature around me because its part of growing up.
i agree my lil brother is 16 and my older cousin is 27...if she asked him to rub her feet no one in our fam would be like omg whats this...i mean she could ask him to daba her legs too and its ok...she sees him as a kid anyway...so it depends on the intentions...the fact u felt weird about it means tht intentions from somewhere wer not pure..
i didn't feel weird about it. I was just comfortable with it thinking it wasn't done with any bad intentions
i didn't feel weird about it. I was just comfortable with it thinking it wasn't done with any bad intentions
soo....whats the problem then? uv been told islamically the 'issues' so i think thats it really..it depends on u and ur family...to me this really is a trivial issue
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well my aunt and my cousin are fine with it.
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...but ur not? i mean i dont know what else u want cos islamically its not good...so i mean the choice is urs
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I wonder how a question with a simple "NO" answer can linger on for so long.
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islamically its a no to rub my aunts feet?
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You just wont drop it would you?
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OP; yes you can
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gnr1 i am sure you have got your answer. Avoid to do it next time.
If you cannot say NO to her on her face then do what my bro does. If I have ever asked him ke plz pair dabba do or sir dabba do. He immidiately lies down and say, pehlay mera dabba do then I will do for you too. 
of course I dont do that for him 
I wonder you are so good that you agreed to her. Humaray waalay tou haath hi nahin aatay 
btw me n my bro has 9 yrs age diff :halo: