Xara well I've told her what she's doing is wrong and she's going to regret it one day if she doesn't stop but then she stopped talking to me altogether...I hope she comes to her senses soon, she's been doing it for a year now. I think I'm more scared of her parents reaction than her.
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alot of them actually go abt it full head-to-toe hijab so their parents dont find out
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This is sad, gives the 'proper' hijabis a bad name.
Anyway PM what can you do though really, shes not going to listen to u or take any religious advice.
You dont have to tell the whole truth to the parents, just warn them or something.
Hasnt she got anyone else she looks upto.
at this point all u can do is pray for her.
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*Originally posted by Mizz Angel666: *
Did she mention her reasoning behind her decision?
Is she doing it for the money? Maybe her parents are in need of some money and she thinks this is the easiet way to help them?
I'm not saying what she is doing is right but you cannot pass judgment on her without knowing from her what her situation is.
Maybe she is need of attention and she thinks the only way to get it is to sleep around but then the money wouldn't play into that....
You should really sit down and talk to her about it and let her know there are other options.
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Whatever the reason she is doing this, even if she thinks it is the best way to help her parents with money, or what's so ever, there is No excuse to justify this. As long as she is a Muslim, she should know that. Unfortunately, she WILL be judged, no matter what the reason would be.. and as Quran says in Al Nur, we shoudd not let pity into Allah's law...
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*Originally posted by Madhanee: *
Fungo, what’s this a chakla or something?
Paki M. Welcome to college. Most girls sell their bodies for money or a burger. Wait until the tuition goes higher, even the parents might have to resort to that. Easy come, easy go. Education is important even if one has to get f’d to get it.
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Are you serious? I don't know where you live, but even I live in NYC, USA, your statement "Most girls sell their bodies for money or a burger" is clearly untrue... Most girls actually won't. Media might fool you to think so by exaggerating or focusing some girls who do so. Please go through a reality check once in your life time now...
Also, "everyone is doing" is not gonna be any excuse anyway.
And most importantly, if you really meant what you wrote in your last sentence, and believe Education is the most important,,,, even more than following Allah,,, please put your Iman straigh once again....
I just feel sad when I read posts like this from Muslims..
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I just feel sad when I read posts like this from Muslims..
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and what makes u so sure they r muslims????
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*Originally posted by armughal: *
and what makes u so sure they r muslims????
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Oh, they are not??? (I am seriously asking..??????)
I am not particulary talking about this one poster, but rather, I am speaking in general. Some, if not many, Muslims lately put priority in something else than Islam.. and it makes me sad.
I wouldn't tell her parents right now but like you mentioned that she has elder sisters who are happily married. I would suggest contacting them if you think they won't blow up like her parents would. If she looks up to her sisters and respects them then it might be a better route to take.