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Oh achaaaaa, aap ki friend ki baat ho rahi hai. 
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as long as ur alive…u learn to stand up…(but only if you want to…no one can make you do tht…others can only help you through)
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as long as ur alive...u learn to stand up....(but only if you want to...no one can make you do tht.....others can only help you through)
Only lucky ones have people helping them through. Most of the time you are all alone trying to stand back up on your feet.
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Often times people are the cause of the problem and then they complain about being alone once the person is gone. I think maturity and common sense is required to analyze the situation properly and come up with right solutions.... not self victimization as that will push you more into abyss.
Look at what have YOU done wrong not how has other person wronged you... that's how you LEARN.
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kuj samajh lagi kurriyee?
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samajh lag bhi rahi hay aur aagay samjha bhi dungi 
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haan samjha dena kion ke main tou in ko samjha samjha ke thak gya hoon
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inko kinko?? 
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unko jinko
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achaaaaaa “wun ko” okay okay 
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Queen, just advise your friend NOT to talk to strangers and all should be fine and dandy. 
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strangers se kisee ne kya baat karni hai jub zakhm dene wale apne hee hoon
ahaan wohi wun ko jin ko hurt ho raha hai 
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That is why, this is what you do...you don't give a damn about anyone! A part from your family of course. Don't get emotional attached to anyone , don't have any expectations and just stay focused on your task, success , happiness etc. Yeah, I know cynical response but really what option does one have when their living in a world where people change friends like clothes, walk all over you just cause they can and worship money! Don't want to get hurt? Believe everything and trust no one just don't get close to anyone, none of this genuineness , sincerity , true friendship , true love etc... and no one can hurt you. By becoming emotionally attached with anyone you give them the power to hurt you. Every time you feel your becoming attached to someone stop talking to them for awhile or until the feeling dies and just remember we can make it through life alone. Call me a pessimist ,I am not a wishful thinker! I don't make the news I just report it. Just a hello, hi and then bye relationship with everyone and you'll be fine.
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it wasnt a stranger who made her hurt 
what if it was a relation like, brother, sister or spouse? you ARE emotionally attached to such relations??
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Family matters,then you cry yourself to sleep, look up ways to commit suicide etc..Okay on a more serious note, you talk to them about it. Family can hurt you but they family at the end of the day you can work it out. Communication can solve anything and everything. A lot of it depends on thinking, things are as important as we make them. Perception is everything.
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what if they call 'communication" an "Argument" ? and dont let you speak! misconceptions get cleared only once discussed, but what if the other person isn't ready to understand your part and hurts you plenty? how would you handle it?
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what if they call 'communication" an "Argument" ? and dont let you speak! misconceptions get cleared only once discussed, but what if the other person isn't ready to understand your part and hurts you plenty? how would you handle it?
Then you try and understand their position. Or you give it time , if they value the relationship then after sometime they'll come and talk to you about it. You tell yourself that although this is family and this person means the world everything even what your feeling is temporary, you remind yourself what ever happens happens for the best. Positive thinking has a massive effect on our lives, people who think positive end up with happy outcomes. Yes, maybe you cant control who hurts you but you can control how you react at least after a certain time you can. To be honest, it's all about time and reminding yourself that really be it family or some one else what people say , think, do don't matter much and with time everything gets better. Never hurt others back, you wont hurt for long , it may seem like it will never end but it will. Shift your focus, clear your thoughts and just keep in mind what ever happens happens for the best. The thing is once we get hurt we keep thinking about , analyzing it, going over the situation again and again , don't! If the other person is not willing to talk about it , give it time and then what ever happens with time believe it's for the best.
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many men do tht....thts not new.
Absolutely true!