Can it be the reason someone did hurt you because you allowed him or her to do that?
Also, how can you make yourself hurt-proof?
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Don't put your trust where it shouldn't be. Use your judgement. If something looks too good to be true, it most likely is.
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hurt proof? nt possible. insaan, insaan hota hai! some r more sensitive but yes i dnt think there is much one can do abt it. i wish there was a way out but unfortunately there isnt.
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wear iron ............you will be hurt-prooof.
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There is no way to make yourself hurt proof but you should work to MORON proof yourself.
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The more emotion you invested in a person or a relationship, the more hurt you will feel. You can't control the other person, so yes they can engage in hurtful behaviors. However, to an extent, u teach people how to treat you through your own attitude and actions. For example, you may be an enabler for a hurtful action or you can set boundaries for yourself and others. You can lessen the hurt by adjusting your expectations. Although you have not mentioned the story and reasons behind this thread of yours, I personally think that you have a tendency to blow things out of proportion and become over-emotional. Think about whether or not your expectations and behaviors are reasonable and it's good to develop a tougher skin.
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Well, for starters, you can have your guard up, don't be naive, and gullible. Also, remaining distant until you fully trust the person can prevent you from getting hurt but at the end of the day, nothing will actually make you hurt-proof (lol) because each person is their own individual self, you can't really control their behavior.
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What if fully trusted relationship goes bad because one person THINKS that other isn't being honest while there is no credible proof of persons dishonesty other than that persons own THOUGHTS, imaginations, exaggerations and misunderstandings?
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I used to use girls, I would promise things emotionally to them (telling them I love them, I'll never leave, blah blah). I would make them feel special, make inside jokes, and pretend to open up emotionally. The girls in-turn would open up to me, and trust me. Then when I would break it off I would wonder why they're so upset and angry, I used to laugh at angry phone messages and texts, hell I broke up with a girl I'd been with for 6 months over the phone and then promptly blocked her number. Then when it happened to me it was awful, when I invested my self emotionally in the girl that got taken away from me it was horrid, I couldn't think straight, couldn't sleep, I'd lost the will to get up in the morning for a good while. You don't know hurt until it happens to you, I guess hurting emotionally is apart of life, can't avoid the inedible, you can only prepare.
As for those of you who are currently hurt, pray, work hard, and remember life always moves on, life never stops and once it does you'll realize how short it was.
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Hurt makes you stronger :)
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Man that is the most hurtful thing you can do... if you love the person you love them, of course sometimes you just cant say it but to tell them you love them when you don't is insanity.
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Man that is the most hurtful thing you can do... if you love the person you love them, of course sometimes you just cant say it but to tell them you love them when you don't is insanity.
many men do tht....thts not new.
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many men do tht....thts not new.
Thats what I am saying. Trust of another person is most important thing, treasure you can get out of someone and to break it like that or because of other persons misunderstanding is single greatest loss to a human, mentally. ab koe na samjhe tou uss ki marzi
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Man that is the most hurtful thing you can do... if you love the person you love them, of course sometimes you just cant say it but to tell them you love them when you don't is insanity.
Not justifying his behaivor. But those that do behave in this way may even argue that it's not insanity but sheer genious to say those three words to a girl....just to get what you want out of her. It's manipulative.
While words and even actions can be misleading, the girls also have a responsibility toward themselves and their own well-being (treading carefully, etc). But yes, it is a chitty thing to do if there was no sincerity behind the words.
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They are sick.
what goes around comes around :) and they sure deserve it.
Not justifying his behaivor. But those that do behave in this way may even argue that it's not insanity but sheer genious to say those three words to a girl....just to get what you want out of her. It's manipulative.
While words and even actions can be misleading, the girls also have a responsibility toward themselves and their own well-being (treading carefully, etc).
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:k:
but too much of it shatters you! 
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Somebody broke your nail, haina?
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What do you mean too much?
This person kept hurting you and kept letting them?
Pehli, dosri dafa main hee samjh jana chahea tha na.
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where did i mention it was me who is hurt?? 
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Some people have a bad problem assuming stuff. I guess the topic of thread is such that its easy to assume.