greatness tab hoti hai jab insaan kisi dil-aziz cheez ko dil say na bolay takeh doosray khush rahein.
but according to whatever is happening on the forum … men havent reallly rejected the idea of polygamy .. but instead trying to prove that it is ok, and that women should be ok with it too. so jis cheez ko dakhal-andaaz kiya he nahi … aur jis ki wajah say puray forum per aap logoun ka dil phoota ja raha hai … wahan greatness ki to baat he nahi ati.
but on the contrary … like reha already said … you’re not doing anybody any favors by projecting yourself as great. you wana do it? go right ahead. greatness to phir tab hogi jab un do ya chaar k baad aapka qeema niklay ga.
We would accept it if it was being used properly. Most of the time when single and easily-excitable men talk about four wives…they remind you of little pubescent boys. “OMG FOUR WIVES!!! LIKE TOTALLY WOW!!!”
Re: all these talks of men being polygamous ... :/
question to men:
do you not love your first wife enough that you have the capacity to fall in love with another woman?
My capacity is not limited by anyone's feeble comprehension.
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do you have time to go for another woman?
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No.
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those who give the reasoning that it is allowed in islam for men to have 4 wives ... normally the consequent wives happen after an extra-marital affair ... how do you explain that?
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I don't.
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i think, a man who really loves his wife, would never consider going for another woman, just like a woman who loves her husband enough, would never think of another man.
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Ok.
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please esplane.
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As so many people say when there's any religious matter being discussed, "To each their own."
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ALERT: i am not talking about situations where you wife can't get pregnant, or where sexual relations are affected by health reasons or whatever other valid reasons.
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Re: all these talks of men being polygamous ... :/
Y can't women just accept something allowed by the religion??
according to my question, it is not whether it is allowed by religion or not ... but that those who mostly practice this right, don't practice it correctly ... that most such cases are a result of extra-marital affairs, marrying your ex-love after being forced into some family marriage, and the sort ... so why should these people talk about their right through a religious pov when their is nothing religious about their action.
i already pointed out in the beginning that this thread does not refer to those who go through this because of valid reasons.
On a more serious note, I’ve met only a few people who actually practice it. I haven’t carried out any investigation into how well they’re doing it (i.e. carrying out their duties related to it). However, I won’t automatically assume they’re doing something wrong.
Re: all these talks of men being polygamous ... :/
how well they are carrying it is a second discussion altogether, how did those people come into this situation?
and nomi having a point ... how many cases do you know of that fall under the valid category? i know none. i havent heard of any either.
Like I said, I don't know the details. So unless I have proof of the opposite, I'm going to go with the innocent until proven guilty approach (and not assume that they're at fault without having evidence of it). Of what I do know of the people whom I know are practicing it, they are the religious type, so I would expect that they would care about fulfilling their religious duties in the matter.
