do you not love your first wife enough that you have the capacity to fall in love with another woman?
do you have time to go for another woman?
those who give the reasoning that it is allowed in islam for men to have 4 wives … normally the consequent wives happen after an extra-marital affair … how do you explain that?
i think, a man who really loves his wife, would never consider going for another woman, just like a woman who loves her husband enough, would never think of another man.
please esplane.
ALERT: i am not talking about situations where you wife can’t get pregnant, or where sexual relations are affected by health reasons or whatever other valid reasons.
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No no no. You have it all wrong, Farrah. It's the wives that don't understand. I mean don't they love their husbands enough to see them happy and exercise their Islamic right to polygamy. How selfish.
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Yes some men throw the 'i can have 4 wives' card but the fact is they cant force 4 women to tolerate that situation. If they can thats all good and there are some positives to having sister wives. You can choose to be career focused while another wife prefers to stay at home, your husband wont moan about your career taking too much time because there will always be another wife around to cook his dinner and look after your children. I could never tolerate that situation and I have the right not to tolerate it, I'm happy for the families where it works.
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i think, a man who really loves his wife, would never consider going for another woman, just like a woman who loves her husband enough, would never think of another man.
Agree.. and I'd add he prob isn't that bothered about his kids either if he chooses to be absent from their lives for (at least) half the time they are growing up..
yea … i was getting a little upset with men trying to somehow get around our heads and one way or the other making polygamy seem fine … and on the other hand … posts of CM and Crime Master Gogo (yeeesh .. whats with the username!!) … [women going to co-ed … muslims trying to justify their sins vs accepting it’s a sin] …
so yeah. i am feeling very restless and annoyed with all this.
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I get annoyed too. Yeah, its allowed to marry 4 times but most of the time even 2 wives are SO hard to manage.
The idea is very exciting for the boys but in reality managing one family is hard enough with a single decent income. How many will actually have the nerve to marry twice? Health insurance, shopping, clothes, bills, tuition, books, groceries, mortgages, cars, college, weddings, gifts, etc for two families...not easy. Plus, most people when marrying are emotionally involved with each other these days...hurting their first wife by marrying a second time is a scary idea.
Polygamy is an interesting thought but it comes with a lot of catches and fine print.
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No no no. You have it all wrong, Farrah. It's the wives that don't understand. I mean don't they love their husbands enough to see them happy and exercise their Islamic right to polygamy.
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It's all wind up talk ladies, I'm sure most men are happy to stick with one wife here :p
Having said that, you need to accept that polygamy is a part of religion and if someone does decide to have two, three or four wives for whatever reason, we have no right to judge them.
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It's all wind up talk ladies, I'm sure most men are happy to stick with one wife here :p
Having said that, you need to accept that polygamy is a part of religion and if someone does decide to have two, three or four wives for whatever reason, we have no right to judge them.
Exactly and men need to accept that women can choose not be part of that arrangement. (Not saying you dont rizla)
i so totally need to be re-educated. oh but wait … i can’t go to school anymore … it’s all co-ed. 
does that mean leftover gold?