all these talks of men being polygamous ... :/

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Re: all these talks of men being polygamous … :confused:

exactly .. nobody has the right to judge anyone … but judgments are flying all high and low around here. and it freaks me out and shakes my brains when i read all the contradictory stuff going on around here.

what practice are you referring to? i’m a bit lost :confused:

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i think shak means they might be loads of sister wives on here *****ing about each other, that would be fun to see.

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Who says its for love? It's only for secs.

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Think he meant multiple wives.. All those inlaw issues would be nothing compared to this imo

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Re: all these talks of men being polygamous … :confused:

Yahi chaar chaar shaadioyon ki, sarab’s post was just about right

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that obviously clears up my confusion about "marriage is sacred" farce.

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oh. :sannan:

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Credit needs to be given to men actually.

It is the greatness in men’s hearts that they do not act on it even where it is not against the law and they have means to support more than one. :chai:

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Right you are Diwana :D

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Greatness indeed. Most of those who actually desire this do not do so because they don’t have guts to face the backlash from friends and family.

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Exactly if they really want more than one wife they should be brave enough to confront their family and friends, afterall Gods approval is most important.

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So those who do not do polygamy are sissies? Not brave enough?

Are you sure?

Write it clearly and tell every man who marries only one woman.

Lets not whine then when there are men who really ARE ‘brave’ in your opinion!! :chai:

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Diwana, pal, please do read carefully.

Sarab used "they" in response to my quote. And "they" refers to what I said: "most of THOSE who actually desire to do this"

That in no way is equal to *ALL Muslim men on earth not practicing polygamy.

*No woman here will NOT be appreciative of a man who does not desire polygamy and wants to commit to her ONLY.

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Re: all these talks of men being polygamous … :confused:

Maybe you should learn to read diwana.

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I read it very carefully. You actually did appreciate, hence I did not answer you earlier.

You wrote: "if they really want more than one wife they should be brave enough to confront their family and friends, ."

Basically, If they desire more than one then they should be brave enough not to be afraid of backlash.

(you added sarcastically) "........afterall Gods approval is most important"

Meaning, why worry about backlash, Gods approval should be enough for them.

Now how about you learn to write your thoughts better ways. :)

How about I give you another chance to give credit to men who choose not to practice polygamy? Can you do that?

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Diwana do you suffer NPD? Why the hell would I need to give credit to men who choose to have only one wife? Thats almost saying they are better then men that have more than one wife, when that is not always true. I was not been sarcastic, Gods approval is above everybody elses and if a man really wants more than one wife he should fight for that God given right. Just as a women should fight for her right to a seperate dwelling if she hates living with her inlaws. Just because I would not want to be a part of a poly marriage does not mean I'm against people that do.

I give credit to men who are man enough to do what they want, whether that is having 4 wives or 1 wife.

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duplicate

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I got your point. But there should not be any question of being brave or not being brave/better then as you mentioned.

Credit still needs to be given to men who choose not to practice polygamy since aside from all the fear of backlash they do not want to commit injustice to women.

And my conclusion was that there should not be any whining against men who do practice polygamy if allowed by law. Afterall the man is exercising his God's given right.

Agreed?

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Actually, Islamically speaking, polygamy puts more responsibility on man's shoulders. He has to provide security, shelter, food, clothing, and fulfill the emotional and physical needs of two women (or 4 for that matter) and he has to take care of all of their children.

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There is a question of been brave though, if a man desires more than one wife but does not go through with it because he is concerned about his family/friends/community etc then it's simple, he is scared therefore not brave enough.
Just like if a man has been raised in a poly family and is expected to have more than one wife and he really only wants one wife. If he goes through with the 4 weddings for fear of family/friends/community etc he is also scared and therefore not brave enough.