Alcohol

[Thornewood9]

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I find it interesting that people use alcohol as a means to “rebel”. And its probably the company you keep. Personally don’t know of any Pakistani guys who drink. Alhumdulillah.

[sweefs]

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@badabing

I see the aunty jees are out tonight!

Look, nearly every guy (PAki) from 26-34 that I know has at some point had a drink. Alot of them - you’d never know it. In London, they’re are specific meet ups where cars and cars of Paki boys link up and get pissed,stoned and do charlie but no one outside of these boys will know about it. It is what it is!

aunty jees ki baat maan lo acha na? warna tumhe koi mashriqi larki nahin milnay wali.

on a serious note, i could probably believe that but these guys need to get their priorities right. how can you be 30 and still getting pissed and stoned? they should be judged hard.. like, get a life plz ok.

[Sehrysh]

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@Ghost14

Why would drinking be considered worse if cigarettes are far more harmful? If it’s a matter of self control (or lack thereof) and self harm, shouldn’t all the fatties guzzling coke and big macs, shortening their lives, be considered heathens noobs?

Also, @badabing I would walk away quickly from these self proclaimed rishta aunties.

Don’t you go be ruining a good bakra, er thing for us! @sweefs and I have matching wedding lehngas we’re going to wear. You know rishta aunties have the MOST fun at weddings!

And if you play along, you can come for the biryani as well.

:nuch:

[sweefs]

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@Sehrysh

Don’t you go be ruining a good bakra, er thing for us! @sweefs and I have matching wedding lehngas we’re going to wear. You know rishta aunties have the MOST fun at weddings!

And if you play along, you can come for the biryani as well.

exactly. and if you help us lure him in, we’re willing to give you a kabab share. and throw in a few maple kks and timbits too.

[Sehrysh]

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Now sweefs, we never discussed sharing kebabs. For kebabs he’s got to do a lot more luring.

[sweefs]

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i tipped my hand too soon? okies

does a take back

[Southie]

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@Sehrysh

Before making a comment like that, you need to consider the audience. It comes off as disrespectful of the forum participants and their beliefs.

Drinking is NEVER fine, not even in moderation.

There is NOTHING disrespectful in expressing my opinion about health affects of drinking vs smoking.

I do disagree wrt ur opinion "drinking is NEVER fine, not even in moderation. I believe it is.

But thanks for your input.

[Ghost14]

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I’m already owed kebabs though. And you two need to offer me biryani just to get me on retainer. Lawyer’d.

[Southie]

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In any event, I believe I have stated in the past there is nothing cool about drinking or getting drunk. I have also stated in the past “MORE POWER TO THOSE WHO ABSTAIN FROM DRINKING”. While walking during lunch, I saw a couple of posts and wrote my 2 cents. Sun being bright couldn’t really read much.

I don’t need someone to advise me about what is disrespectful and what is not. Quite frankly, such attacks are equally disrespectful. So there.

And yes, you can have the last word. Have a nice day.

[sweefs]

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@Ghost14

I’m already owed kebabs though. And you two need to offer me biryani just to get me on retainer. Lawyer’d.

oh really? pray, tell.. who owes you kababs cuz it surely can’t be sehrysh (don’t backstab me sehrysh, think of the sisterhood )

[Sehrysh]

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@sweefs

oh really? pray, tell.. who owes you kababs cuz it surely can’t be sehrysh (don’t backstab me sehrysh, think of the sisterhood )

That was you!!! You made kebabs and posted about it in a blog and then did not share the kebabs. I clearly remember this - don’t challenge my unasailable memory!

[sweefs]

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@Sehrysh

That was you!!! You made kebabs and posted about it in a blog and then did not share the kebabs. I clearly remember this - don’t challenge my unasailable memory!

nauh! that was to show you that ive had to make my own kababs cuz you wouldnt make me any! hey we’re deviating from the rishta aunty plan

[Sehrysh]

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Okie *goes back to her corner to maybe makes kebabs for sweefs and none for @Ghost14)

[PyariCgudia]

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What? Isn’t he in the UK? Different continent.

[PyariCgudia]

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@Ghost14

Why would drinking be considered worse if cigarettes are far more harmful? If it’s a matter of self control (or lack thereof) and self harm, shouldn’t all the fatties guzzling coke and big macs, shortening their lives, be considered heathens noobs?

Also, @badabing I would walk away quickly from these self proclaimed rishta aunties.

Why? I’m something to walk away from?

[sweefs]

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^ ruh-roh..

he means sehrysh and i are something to walk away from (as rishta aunties)

[soconfused]

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@PyariCgudia

Is it just me or are there a lot o nice guys out there who drink alcohol? Jeez Louise!

Yeah, my friends and I were just talking about this the other day. In undergrad, I could literally count on one hand the number of muslim guys that had completely clean slates (even the “msa guys” had pretty crazy pasts) and that list got even shorter in med school. I think it’s a culture in higher education/some fields. Granted, most of the guys I go to school with here are spoiled brats / dr’s kids so they did some pretty stupid stuff growing up.

My fiance definitely had a past and was very open about it with me, which is…surprising because I’m pretty straight-edge and haven’t done much of anything my entire life and was pretty open about drinking being a dealbreaker…I was really conflicted about it and thought about it a LOT and couldn’t get myself to reject him outright for something he did in his past. so I heard him out and now we’re engaged. It was a self admitted really stupid “phase” of his life when he was hanging out with the wrong crowd. It’s been a few years and alhamdullilah he’s never looked back. In fact, he’s usually the one keeping me on track with religious stuff

[PyariCgudia]

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^ Yeah, past is past, often people come out of it stronger.

I don’t touch alcohol with a 10 foot pole now. I pray more. I pick up the Quran and read it. I listen to religious lectures. I do zikr. I’m more motivated for this Ramadan than I was for the last 2 Ramadans. I’m more at peace now because of it all, and I don’t want to slip backwards at this point. It’d be unfair for a guy to reject me because of past mistakes, and forget to look at who I’ve become.

[Southie]

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lives have been destroyed from drinking. Families have been ripped apart. When people wear their ability to hold their liquor as a badge of honor, they are also missing the point that they are too used to drinking on a regular basis.

With modernization, yoing people in developing countries such as India consider drinks as proxy for cool. On personal level there are at least two families among relatives highly affected by this habit. Would definitely favor “rishtas” for relatives who don’t drink. Or smoke.

Probably was clumsy in my earlier post. Wasn’t thinking about religious aspect. And had no intent to offend anyone.

Peace.

[anya]

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It was shocking when I first heard it but it is more common than one would think. Once they have reformed and would not go back to it, I guess it’s fine. The past should remain the past and in no way harm/affect the future.

@Decent_6Chora

You can drink all you want but only thing that irks me is the reasoning

“oh we HAVE to drink due to business/social circle”

NO! you do not HAVE to, you WANT to. Just say it or don’t say anything. I am not asking for explanation, nor am i judging you.

This. If you’re doing it at least own it. No one forces you to do anything work wise or socially (regarding this). They just lack self control.

@badabing

i don’t get why guys admit to it. i would never - deny, deny deny!

They want to continue after marriage and want the girl to be ok with that. But if asked, I want the truth so I can decide if I want to proceed or not.

@badabing

it’s lasted 5 years so far. I’m confident I won’t go back to it - I still go out, but just have a coke or juice. Alcohol rots your insides, not worth it.

^This, one should be smart enough not to harm oneself at least, even if they are trying to fit in or whatever.