Re: Alarming Rate Of Divorce in Pakistanis Living In The West.
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Re: Alarming Rate Of Divorce in Pakistanis Living In The West.
^Er it was relevant to the post I was actually answering..
I wasn't the one who brought it up in the first place so not sure why you've mentioned my post rather than the one I've answered which strangely you've 'liked' (so that's not 'off tangent' seeing as though you agree with its viewpoint and you don't have a problem with it 'generalising' about westerners there? LOL)
I did not mean its you.
Re: Alarming Rate Of Divorce in Pakistanis Living In The West.
Most people in the West are on some sort of speaking terms when they divorce.. I would hardly call it all out war.. If they're able to manage joint custody of the kids (as many if not most do) obviously they're able to handle being civil with each other.. It's not that uncommon for them to invite exes to their weddings either further down the line.. Something that would be uthinkable to us..
You are right. It is not 'all out' war, but a war nonetheless. The ones I know who went through it are nice to each other in front of the kids and complain bitterly about each other later.
We usually tolerate more in marriage and tend to divorce only as a last resort when the situation is intolerable (as in abuse, serious family issues etc) so by that time we absolutely despise each other and never want to see the other person's face again..
Going by what we see in the in-law threads, for desis, marriage is more of a war. Or at least a battle.
Apologies to Icono for hijacking the thread; my last post on the topic.