Alarming Rate Of Divorce in Pakistanis Living In The West.

[Knight30]

Re: Alarming Rate Of Divorce in Pakistanis Living In The West.

@Iconoclast

Marriage as an institution is on decline in the west in general, not just among Pakistanis. And I think the trend is going to reach Pakistan sooner or later, as it is reaching other asian societies.

Married couple are shrinking. People either don’t want to get married or if they do end up in divorce. Marriage is not attractive any more.

For women, they can become financially independent, they ar enot restricted to sewing clothes, or teaching only. No profession is out of reach. Firearms, tasers, security cameras, better policing and law enforcement mean that they also do not need a man or his family for protection.

For men, technology has been as libertaing or may be more. A 100 dollar rotimaker can make perfectly round rotis. Shan has produced all sorts of masalas, every dish is available in store, put it in microwave and u r ready to go. Dishwashers, washing machines etc are man proof.

Society and people are now open to idea of out of wedlock intimacy, no strings attached. You just have to know the right crowd. There are party scenes, dating sites, clubs you name it. Dont have to be a model to get laid, nor have to worry about your reputation. Religion is no bar either. Most religious figures put a lot of emphasis on avoiding “sin” but dig a little deeper and you find, trivializing adultery has become the norm. All they want is for you to contribute the dollars.

Icono the difference is that people in the west are learning how to handle it, I know many families where the divorced parents are quite civil to each other and are fulfilling their responsibilities of shared custody and they are not messing the child’s head, I don’t see that in the Desi community. Divorce means all out war and the spouses are poisoning the child’s mind against each other and wreaking havoc with the child’s life.