Bismillah Hir Rahman Nir Raheem
AoA my muslim brothers and sisters
S**urely those that are martyrs are not dead but alive. But where does it say we can’t mourn for martyrs? If your brother, son, husband or someone closely realted to you goes in Jihad and gets martyred, it’s hard to believe that you will not mourn or cry for them. I hope we can agree to the fact that crying is a natural thing. Allah (swt) does not prevent us from doing any natural thing, and Islam has given us set mediums in going about carrying out these natural things. The only relevant example I’ll give at this time is the mourning that the Prophet (PBUH) and the family of the Prophet, had done for the martyrdom of Hamza (as). It is narrated that one could hear the cries from most of the houses in Medina over the death of Hazrat Hamza, and it is even written that the family of the Prophet and Hamza used to go to the house of Hamza (as) and used to cry till night. In fact if you read this next hadeeth you will realize that the Prophet (P) cried over Imam Ali (as) even when he was literally alive in this physical world:
"Hadhrath Ali narrates, 'I went out with Rasulullah (s) and saw a beautiful garden and I praised it. Rasulullah (s) said 'A better garden is waiting for you in Paradise'. Then Hadhrath Ali said, 'When the route became clear Rasulullah (s) embraced me and began to cry profusely', I asked 'O Prophet of Allah, what makes you cry?' He said 'the hearts of the Sahaba bear hatred towards you which shall open up after my death".
Ahlul Sunnah book Izalat al Khafa,**** Volume 1
Another hadeeth follows:
Imam Sadiq (as) said :"My grandfather, 'Ali b. al-Husayn (as), wept over his father for twenty years. When food was put before him, he wept." One of his retainers blamed him, saying: "I fear for you lest you should perish." So the Imam (as) kindly said to him: "I only convey my complaints and my grief to Allah, and I know from Allah what you all do not know.Ya'qub (Jacob) was a prophet from whom Allah caused one of his sons to be separated. He had twelve sons, and he knew that his son (Joseph) was still alive, he wept over him till he lost his eye sight. I looked at my father, my brothers, my uncles, and my companions (and saw them) slain all around me, so how can my grief end? Whenever I remember how Fa`tima's children were slaughtered, tears choke me. Whenever I look at my aunts and sisters, I remember how they were fleeing from one tent to another."
-Al-Muqrim, Maqtal al-Husayn
-Hulyat al-Awliya'**