Well basically the rishta that I’m thinking of accepting, the second one, I feel as though the age gap is too much…im 24 and he’s 31…is that too much age gap?? how much age gap have you got between you and your spouse??..I suppose the age gap feels weird to me because my parents have only 2 years gap between them…and I always though i’ll have the same as well…
Since you're the one who will be married to this guy....then the ONLY person's opinion that matters is yours. There's no point in bothering if YOU're not comfortable with it.
My parents have a 1 year gap. My fiance and I are 3 years apart. My fiance's parents are 11 years apart.
For me it’s too much. I can’t be with someone who hasn’t watched the same cartoons as me. It just wouldn’t work.
I prefer someone closer in age…max 3 years difference. But if the age difference has not hindered understanding and compatibility between you two…if your temperaments are comptible…if you’re on the same page with many of your beliefs…then that’s what matters most. Pray istikhara..or pray to Allah to guide you in the best direction.
Also, you may not have all the same qualities in your partner that your parents have in their marriage. If you don't feel comfortable....then don't go for it. Surely, you can and will find someone who better fits your requirements. You have to do what is best for you.
you need to have a career, become independent and meet men, have fun. once youre in your late 20's and early 30's you will begin to see things differently. your priorities will change and you will know what kind of men you want.
why do you women restrict yourself to this BS? i was quite disgusted by the way you described your marriage prospects in your other thread "avg looking but good career, doctor well settled" . personally i would rather buy a prostitute if i knew a prospective bride thought like this about me. its clear you dont want him physically...youre not into him. you would be amazed to realize there is no shortage of goodlooking, attractive men in this world and you women dont have to be stunning to date and have relationships with them.
The age gap is fine; I was always happy for there to be a ten year gap, but would have easily extended it. Benefit:Someone who is older is more likely to be secure than someone your own age both financially and in his own skin. Also, age tends to sexy up most guys, so there's that plus too. Reallly the only thing that you should worry about is what kind of human being he is; how does he treat other people, does he make you laugh. etc.
Natasha. 7 years difference is not much though i personally would also prefer 3-5 yrs difference but it really depends on the overall package :). If everything else in this rishta seems fine then it wl be trivial to look into such an age difference.
i think 7 years age gap is fine....first you have to see what u actually want.......... if the advantages are overweighing disadvantages than go for it...... nobody is perfect in this world & you cant get each & everything you want......
i dont think 7 years age gap would matter if everything else is fine ........
7yrs isn't that much.. just try and get to know him if possible to make sure you're compatible (not that age necessarily makes it more easier or difficult imo.. bar the extremes)..
I don't know, I find 7 years a bit too much. And in regards to your other thread, I would have went with #1, even though I would not like to marry in the family. I dont mind moving back to Pakistan and who knows, I could convince him to move to the US with me in the future. But anyways, I find the 7 year gap too much. But you should also see how he is personality wise, do you guys have an awkward kind of a dynamic because of his age or you guys seem to get along okay? If you dont think it's odd or whatever, maybe it isn't so bad. You should def. try spending some time first with him before you decide on anything.
Take it this way. All the older guys here on gs are the nicer mature ones but those who are younger are the ones who manage to annoy alot of girls here.
