Im talking about career oriented people, what should be the right age to get married for them? Lets suppose a girl is in her early 20’s and is studying medicine. Proposal are around but she is declining/rejecting them b/c she wants to concentrate on her demanding studies.
Lets say now that she finishes her studies by the time she turns 26/27 and do her residency afterwards, which is 3 more yrs. Is it ok to get commited to someone in ur early age or should wait till u r done with eveything?
My personal opinion was to get done with eveything and then think of gettin married but then I hear too much of “ulll find a budha uncle at that age then” “ull lose the fun of life then” blah blah blah
what would you all do if u were at this position/state?
She should get engaged/married only after studies are done. Until then there's no certaincy that she WILL become a doctor. What if she fails exams etc etc etc.
The second consideration is where her residency will be relative to where her (potential) other half lives. If it's nearby, then getting married during residency should be ok, since it's basically like a job. The hubby better get used to being married to a doctor with doctor's hours, and residency is a good time to start.
or she can marry a guy who will support her career goals fully.
alot of girls get married early and finish their medical career after marriage..now they are rich as hell, have maids etc...but the thing is they had really supportive parents, hubbies and in-laws.
^^ ofcourse this keeping in mind that u DO wanna have kids....before u turn too old....
otherwise u get married wheneva u feel like it :)
Both a distraction, and secondly even a liability. If the in-laws, or even the hubby, expect the girl to be a doctor and something happens to cause the girl to prematurely leave med school, it could create very bad feelings between them… the “didn’t get what was expected syndrome”.
True, it would only happen in families who were secretly jerks, but it could happen.
i would get married after completion of 4 years med school and before the start of residency. basically, after you finish med school, you are pretty much a doctor.
residency is a really hard part of your training, so i would want some sort of companionship during that time. plus, residency is when you finally start to get some sort of income to support yourself and your partner.
last 2 years of residency (of a 4 year residency program) are a little easier, so you can chill with your spouse a little more at that time.
sound like you should not marry before starting residency;)
don’t listen to people saying you’ll end up ith a budha guy…i’m almost 26 and my woh is 25mashallah…so keep your career hopes high…and you’ll get the man you deserve inshallah
plus i think you’ll have enought time to find the suitable doc for you:cb:
Its possible to get married/engaged and STILL get a degree. But only if there s mutual understanding. If you really want to study talk to the other person and find out what he/she thinks about it. If he/she is ready to wait or compromise there shouldnt be any problem.
sara 516 u r right
its much harder to conceive in your thirties.
and also there are following additional medical pionts that most of people are not aware of
the chances of getting healthy babies decrease with increasing maternal age e.g chances of down syndrome( a genetic disorder) is directly linked to maternal age.aand all those women who have there 1st kid above age of 28 are at higher risk of giving birth to baby with down syndrome( this fact is medically proven) also conditions like anenchepahly,hyrocephalus.and achondroplasia are linked directly to maternal age.
second all those women with increasing age when become mothers in there thirties start even have increased risk to their own life as conditions like preeclampsia ,abruptio placenta(bleeding in pregnany,that is bad for mother and your kid)
in long term women who donot start their family at appropriate age that is in there twenties have incresed chances of having breast cancer.
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