Age Differences

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Re: Age Differences

@PyariCgudia

You guys act like desi society has put so much burden on the modern desi man such that bechara doesn’t get around to marrying until 40. That’s not the case.

For one, masjids are enforcing now that guys should get married early, and not to delay marriage. So now the young teeny boppers are tying knots earlier. Even while they’re still in school.

Secondly, like I described, you should be done with your college by roughly 22, and be done with a masters/higher level of education by mid 20’s. Some careers are exceptions, like the medical field where people train endlessly, but those guys get married in med school mostly these days - again, mid-20’s so they’re married by residency. Men in other grad programs are also done by mid-20’s. I guess maybe phd’s have it for a long haul, so maybe you’re done with your thesis late 20’s and you’re getting your first academic position early 30’s.

Again, WHY are guys waiting till 40 to get married? They don’t need to. Get married young, and have your families in your 20’s and 30’s, and stop subjecting young 20 year olds whose parents are desperate for a rishta to your balding spots and pot belly tummies, thank you much.

Ok PCG who ARE these gems you are talking about?! All the guys I knew in undergrad, grad school and in my community had a established career by their late 20’s and were ready to get married. Most are married to women their age give or take a year or two.
The desis in the US aren’t all high school dropouts surviving on welfare and getting food stamps. There is a huge population of successful young men who are well mannered, decent and come from good families. You mentioned NYC and Chicago as ghettos. I’ve lived in NYC and there is a HUGE number of young professional guys in the city who are actually broad minded enough to marry a woman their age. Yes you have the typical Jackson Heights crowd as well but there are all kinds of ppl in these big cities. I’m just surprised that living here your entire life, you’ve only come across the ‘losers’.