Age Differences

Ghost14 · August 2, 2013, 7:43pm

Re: Age Differences

Yes, they should stick to people their own age. Maybe it will persuade men to get married younger than waiting once they’re older. There is a severe imbalance here. An older guy will expect that in exchange for money, his waning sexual attraction should be tolerated. He may not be as virile, and no one cares about that. He may have some wrinkles, receding hairline, baldspot even, and THAT gets tolerated in exchange for money.

I know 35 year old girls who are making a crap load of money in their careers, but they’re single. Does anyone ask for them? No, because the income a woman earns, the success of her career, her intelligence, her lifetime accomplishments, her maturity and samajdari all do not matter. What matters is her youthful skin, and perky boobs.

It’s not about a moral obligation, only, it’s about evening out the scales here.

You assume that these men don’t want to get married earlier. Many do, but women their age have rishtas from older guys, and as people have **already **pointed out, many younger guys have obligations, family or career related, that don’t allow for them to settle down at this age.

You resort to hyperbole yet again. Yes, a man in his 30’s does not possess the vigor that he did in his 20’s, but these guys are still attractive if women are willingly marrying them.

Lastly, you assume that men desire the same things as women. Men don’t really care about a woman’s career success, which is painful to hear but it’s a fact. They care about what that success shows about the woman, but, if in addition to her career, the woman isn’t also caring, warm hearted, and any number of other personality traits that appeal to men, then they will reject her. And of course youthful skin and perky boobs matter, just like strong shoulders and a nice chest matters to you, but it’s not always the only thing.

And the scales were even, when career women were younger. If you want to blame anyone, blame feminists who tell women that marriage and family can wait. They can to a certain degree, but if women play chicken with men in terms of marriage, they will lose every time. It’s kind of like economics, the free market and all that.

All that said, **you’re right. **Rejecting someone just because they’re not 21 is asinine. I will say though, that not every 40 year old guy can marry someone younger. These guys have to be pretty desirable to begin with. Therefore, if women their age want to attract them, they better be equally desirable. Yes that means getting to the gym. Yes, that means working on your personality flaws (everyone has them). Your career is nice, but a man isn’t getting uncomfortable in the pants because of your position on the corporate ladder. That’s a fact of life.

I just want to repeat this fact because I think older women don’t get it: your career is not going to increase your rishta prospects. Even if it was just the dating world, your career is nice, but it’s not exactly going to put you over the top. Just like a hot, dead beat guy isn’t going to find a lot of success with women who want to settle down.