Age Differences

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Re: Age Differences

@PyariCgudia

Depends even in the US what desi community we’re talking about. There are the educated types - the docs, lawyers, the MBA’s from IVY leagues, etc. Then there are the rest of the Pakistani families, which for the most part, have blue collar jobs. Which is the majority of Pakistanis in the US, actually. And many of those families are VERY old fashioned - they make Pakistanis IN Pakistan look progressive.

Exactly it depends on what social circle you associate with. All my friends got married at 27 or above to men who were their age or 2-3 years older than them. And then I know some girls who married guys younger than them but not I don’t know of any couple where the age difference is huge and a 35 year old guy is demanding a 25 year old. Like I mentioned, maybe it’s because we all know different sets of people and I am honestly shocked to see such backwardness amongst desis in the West.

@Ghost14

The extremes are not the norm, but I’m referring to the general phenomena of older men marrying younger women. That’s what my posts are about. These extremes do fit the general trend though so, while I personally wouldn’t want to marry someone 13 years younger than me, if the people are willing participants what’s your beef?

I have no ‘beef’ with older men marrying younger women and I’m also not saying a 27 year old man should have no qualms marrying a 40 year old woman. There are all sorts of couples out there now. Girls are rejecting guys if the age difference is quite a bit. Girls are rejecting guys if they are not educated. And girls are also rejecting guys if they are not attractive to them. For you to state that a guy can be 40 and get married to a 25 year old easily is disturbing coz it’s not true. Guys no longer have a free pass to marry whomever they want without proving anything. I think those situations where a young girl is getting married to a much older guy are the exceptions and for the most part people in the West are actually preferring to settle down with a person who is the same age as them.