How much would it change your attitude if you had a large age difference between yourself and your spouse/partner? Other then maturity and women bearing children I am not sure why the age difference would be an issue.
I think when the couple is more or less the same age, their relationship is more friendship-based and there is greater understanding. At the same time, there may also be more arguments.
The reason why some mother-in-laws prefer younger bahus is because they are more submissive and would have more respect for an older shohar. I think if this was the case with me, where he was 10 years or more older than me, I'd automatically have more respect for him and be less inclined to argue and regard his views and opinions as though coming from greater experience.
If the dude was my age, I wouldn't even refer to him as 'aap'. I've always preferred older guys anyway.
i wud prefer a younger wife...lotsa factorz involved....
I thought it was most obvious that one should always go for a 21+ old wife regardless of his own age.
Most obvious indeed.
21 + 240 months?
i would most definitely not marry someone who is more than 6 years older than me… ok maybe 7.
lekin i dont see anything wrong in marrying someone the same age or maybe a couple years older… as long as the guy is mature enuf to take on a wife and family. unless ofcourse he is threatened by the level of intelligence and maturity a girl of his age holds. 
Women are far maturer at a younger age than men till they reach thirty. Then women become a bit too mature and know their life and plans inside out because mentally they are so settled.
Men at thirty have just learned to deal with reality. Life kindda begins for them. I guess that the mentle age of a man at thirty pretty much correlates with an average girl at 21-23.
And of course, it pretty much depends on what kind of people you are talking about.
There are guys who want to gain strength from their spouses and prefer older girls.
Others go for younger girls for all the reasons described above.
And same is true with women seeking men i guess.
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I thought it was most obvious that one should always go for a 21+ old wife regardless of his own age.
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Please explain.
I dont think age difference really counts in a successful relationship between husband and wife.
They both have to respect each other no matter what. you can call your husband "App" or what ever even if he is of same age group.
but as Cat-woman said, ther is much more friendlyness in the relationship if the age difference is not much (say may be 2-3 year).
My Wife is of my age, but i never had any problems, we respect each other and live a happy life. even our parents are fine with that.
so for us
Black face for jealous people :)
I want someone who is ideally at most 5 years older than me so that we can have some similarities (differences are attractive as well because they're unique to that person and naturally anything unknown automatically becomes more interesting and an object of curiosity). However a person who is older can also be more worldly, sophisticated, and understanding to the woman's needs. In addition, he probably is more serious about a marriage prospect than a younger man may be. Other than that, bottomline is that I think 1) it doesn't matter what age the couple is as long as both people respect and love each other, and 2) men mature much slower than women. Men only begin to mature after they're about 30 when a woman who is 30-ish is already leagues ahead in mentality.
Well what happens if you are married to someone whos 10 yrs younger/older then you. if the maturity levels are the same, and the two people realize any physical differences as far having kids, why should it matter? The only other thing I can think of is if the younger person in the marriage wants to have a career before kids and the older person would prefer kids earlier on.
are you planning on marrying an 18 yr old, hmcq?
Surely you'd want to get settled career-wise first? Or are you in a rush to have kids?
^No. However I am curious as to what the reaction of people would be if I did marry an 18 yr old? Also what does settled in career mean? Since there are very few jobs which are permanent or even close to permanent peoples careers in the future are almost always going to be in some sort of flux and as long as a person has the tools and the versatility to use them, he/she is pretty much settled in their career.
^^
I've seen many cases like that. 18ish yr old girl getting married to someone 10 yrs or so older than her. I think its perfectly normal and fine.
I think its fine as well.
As for the career part, I only said that because thats whats important for most guys. As a girl, I dont think its as important. Im sure one could compromise on when to have children, its all in Allah's hands :-)
Ok hmcq, let me elaborate.
Say you're 30 and marry a 30 years old woman. After 10 years, you'd be 40 and she'd be 40 too. Now that's a bad situation 'cause at the age of 40, you'll find yourself more attractive to a 20 years old girl than your 30 years old hog wife. Plus your 40 years old wife would be fat as hell by then if she'd couple of childeren by then.
The best solution is to wait till you're forty and then mary a 20 years old.
how old r u 
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Women are far maturer at a younger age than men till they reach thirty. Then women become a bit too mature and know their life and plans inside out because mentally they are so settled.
Men at thirty have just learned to deal with reality. Life kindda begins for them. I guess that the mentle age of a man at thirty pretty much correlates with an average girl at 21-23.
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My feelings exactly :)