Why do more people believe the age-difference between a man and a woman in a marriage should be atleast 7-8 years or more?
Who exactly are “more people”..?
Be specific and cut out the generalizations please..
Sometimes it's about control, some people think a much younger spouse is easy to control (regardless of whether it's the man or women who is older). Sometimes these aunties believe that every man regardless of looks and size deserves a much younger wife with a much tighter body. Who cares? Lets face it, if your not interested in fighting to marry someone you can love irrespective of age, you may as well put up with whatever you get.
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I don't know why aunties believe that but before marriage I never wanted a husband same age as mine or even few years older than me.....mainly because most of the boys aged between 18-23 were not mature enough or financially established.
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I've never heard of such an age difference being the LEAST difference expected. According to some of my cousins - preference is around the same age, or 1-4 years difference at MOST. But then in our family, the rule is you get married after you finish ALL your education and you are settled in you career. Which ends up being late 20's- into 30's.
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biological reasons i guess...but i never heard of 7-8 years...ideally, 3-5 years is the norm.
Well its simple because the more age difference the less they have in common and the less they can share. But of course it depents from person to person. In my opinion age diference should not be an issue if mian biwi are raazi…
I wish everyone starts thinking this way 
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It makes a difference ONLY if you are not in the same wavelength thinking wise. Age does not matter.
If the guy is 7-8 years older and too mature for the girl she would be bored.
If the guy is same age but not yet settled that too is a problem for some girls.
If the guy is younger but mature - THAT STILL is a problem cause you know he is younger =(
No matter what - there are enough reasons for any scenario. 
well i guess age difference issue arises coz of the fact tht girls/women are more mature mentally than boys/men of the same age..hence the need to have a younger wife or older husband, for ‘same-level’ of maturity i guess:hmmm:..but 7-8 yrs diff means they want some control over the wifey/woman i suppose, could be for good reasons or bad, tht depends on the person (or should i say aunties:D)
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These "Auntie Jees" should understand that age is nothing but a number and you cannot gauge a persons level of maturity by their age.
Instead, you should use personality, intellect and mannerisms (amongst other attributes) to determine a persons suitability for another as a spouse.. Surely this is what matters most as opposed to the age gaps between two spouses.
Auntie jees rile me up sideways!!!
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I may not be able to say some thing general.
Me and wife have substantial age difference (8-9 years) , we are married for about two years and are AlHumdu Lillah So ok
Both, not me myself only.
may be because those Aunties themselves have that much difference and now grapes are sour for them?
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The word "Auntie Jees" alone gives me creeps at times...Some of them have weird standards. However if the guy is a bit older it's more likely to get along with him, I find the majority of boys who have my age to be incredibly immature.
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WEll any where from 3 to 7 years should be good enough but it doesnt matter if its nore than that all depends on how the couple take it
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It all differ from person to person but rule of thumb is that there should be 1-5 years difference because if men are generally ahmaq (ok immature) and girls generally are chalak (ok mature) if they are both of same age.
OMG, all these talk about 4-5 yr difference between men and women is making depressed. I'm going back home in about a month to get married. I don't who the guy is yet, as i will be selecting a guy when i get there.
Almost all the rishtas that i've got so far, has guys at least 3 yrs younger than me. At first, I was very reluctant but later i agreed to see them as many ppl have said to me that age is not a big factor in marrige.
should i even consider younger guys than me? and If
Because some parents believe that an older guy would be more mature, more dependable/reliable, stronger, and a better supporter.
AND ALSO…I’ve even heard some women (desi moms) say that since women age faster…it’s better for a guy to marry a girl who is considerably younger as she will retain her youth longer. Isn’t it interesting how it’s usually the desi MOMS who perpetuate beliefs that are overall harmful for women?