I never understood this. Everyone tells me that having just turned 25 I shouldn’t be so keen to get married and should just take it easy and enjoy freedom and life while I can etc etc etc etc…
I never understood this argument. Given that one wants to live one’s life in a halal way, so no wild partying etc etc etc, what freedom could you possibly lose by getting married?
Assuming you do not get married to a total control freak, how could you lose by gaining a very bestest friend and someone to share your life wife?
I am not sure about other folks, but i had this fear of getting hitched to the wrong person. But now i know that there are no guarantees in life. People change all the time so you make sure you choose the best person in your opinion, to spend your life with. And as life happens, you just deal with it.
It seems to be just a myth that you shouldnt get married at a younger age. People can be 30 yrs of age and still be not ready for it. Or they can be 3 and be totally ready for it. depends on the parties involved.
I think 18 is toooooooo young for anyone to get married.. even then I knew i wudnt be getting marreid right then and there, that it’d take a while, to get ammi to open up to the idea, to do the rishta search etc.. so by the time I graduate ill be married.. I think one should at least have graduated college to marry.. :halo:
i don't want to get married until i'm established as a prominent barrister...but i have a feeling that my parents would not agree because that will probably take another 10 years yet!
i have no idea wat u mean...in England a barrister is a legal advocate who presents a case before a judge in the higher courts on behalf of his/her clients...its a lot of work...on the upside a lot of money too.
Watch Kavanagh QC if u have sky...then u'll kno wat i mean.
hahahahahahahahahaha an established starbucks working :killsherself:
Im really commitment phobic. I get sick and so on at the thought to havng to see the same mug day after day. Not that I want to see different faces - and I dont believe i n"the one" I think the people in our lives are like seasons. I think platonic friendships are totally the way forward, but I can see how poeple can have difrferent views HOWEVER I am noting that men inparticular are feeling this way at an earlier age than was previously the norm. I could be biased cuase my dad was mid 40s before he wanted commitment and my mum mid 20s - however the same seems to be the case of alot of my friends parents. albiet slightly younger inthe terms of their fathers - . Arent men supposed to hate monogomy? where has the natural order gone.
well i'm 21 now...i can qualify as a lawyer in 2 years time...my degree finishes next year...but for a barrister it would mean 3 years (thats only to qualify...it takes a long to become established because ur basically self-employed)...the main issue is that i would want to do my legal training in london (its where the best barristers are based)...and that would mean moving away from home and a 6 hour drive away.
What really pisses me off is that i'm fairly intelligent and in the third top univerity in the UK and i kno i would get a pupillage...oh i hate the restrictions desi society put upon ME!
You go girl!!! Although i will say being desi doesn't mean your restricted in anyway, it only becomes a restriction if you allow it, it's your life, live it by your terms.
They are restrictions only if you allow them to be.
The question is how strong are you to stand up for yourself and not let insecure people bring you down just cause they arent as successfull and popular as you are.
i got married when i was 22 and my hubby was 23 :D
after 7 yrs, i'm happy to announce we grew up together. life cudnt be any better..... juz imagine having someone to wake up to, someone to take care of u when ur sick, someone to listen to u at any hour of da day, someone to smoke sheesha with blah blah blah.... juz imagineeeeee!!!!!!
I think it varries between individuals. "too young" for one person may be "just right" for another person. It depends on what's happening in their lives at that given point.
I agree with Mad Scientist. What can you do fulfilling your life in a "halal way" that you can't do when being married?
