After Shadi

[PyariCgudia]

Re: After Shadi

@Submission_To_Peace

You are right, my way might be immature. We have discussed the matter a few times and I got response of a typical girl of present fashionable muslim society (not all but alot of them) “Yes you are right, the prophet (saw) set those limits, but you know fashion, …it takes sometime to follow Islamic rules (in old age),…present modern society,…what will my friends say…you are absolutly right but…I don’t say that you are wrong but…I also want to follow those rules but…etc”

^ After such responses I don’t argue. The only option I am left with is to only show my dislikeness by silence…and shed tears infront of Allah, when alone at night, to pray Allah to guide us all towards the right path, as it is everyone’s own life and no one has the right to enforce one’s own view on others, but you know kia karoon kisi aur ke rishtedar ehtiyaat na karein to sar mein dard hota hai par jab apnay na karain to dil mein dard hota hai.

Would you remain calm and comfortable when any of your relative tries to put his/her hand in fire or try to harm himself/herself ???

Though I dont feign illness. I do have rush of blood and head aches when people in the public are given an apportunity by my, sister or wife to look at them in an immoral way. It is not in my control. A couple of times Allah saved me from accident. You might call it my immaturity or childish behaviour.

I think it would take time to get used to such events or in other words to become be-sharam, so that such head aches may not occur. May Allah bless us all and guide us to the right path.

There can be two solutions to the problem. either I go to those people in public personally and ask them " How would YOU feel if I start looking at YOUR mother, sister, wife or daughter in the same manner as your are looking at my wife and sister?"

or I request my own relatives to not give an opportunity to those people to enjoy watching them, because they are not ruining the deeds of their own but of those people and it might lead to ruining of my deeds as well. (Allah forbid)

Oh my GOD. Then why ever did you marry her if you saw that she dressed inappropriately???

Plenty of burqay walis to go around. Kisi ko pakar lehte. Why go after a butterfly, if you just want to trap it in the end?