Re: Afraid to be a good husband...
K, now to elaborate:
To be honest, I've never seen a marriage (Pakistani, that is) where the two members are best friends; the wife has always had sharam in her eyes when speaking to her husband (atleast in public). Thats what I'm striving for; I don't want a kiss ass but someone who will respect me. Now, I know what the typical answer is going to be "Respect is commanded, not demanded" and I fully agree. BUT, I don't think that sharam will be there if we're best friends. See with best friends, alot of lines are crossed; for example phrases like "shut up" or "you're stupid" are used all the times playfully. I don't know if I'd be okay with my wife saying those things or something along those lines to me.
Hope this made sense.
Oh and as far hitting goes...Allah knows that throughout the time I've been here or in my life I've never thought about or actually hit a girl. I realize they are one of Allah's most precious creations and I couldn't phatom the idea of hurting it in anyway.