Afraid to be a good husband...

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Re: Afraid to be a good husband...

@Anil Khan

By defination, a good husband is NOT someone who provides food, clothing, shelter for his family; Those are his responsibilities that he MUST fulfill and doing so does not guarantee him the title of "Good Husband". A good husband is someone who talks with his wife, spends quality time with her, listens to her problems (and doesn't try to solve them but just listens), someone who is basically her friend. However, I'm of the opinion that if one does those things, his respect or zor (in urdu) within the family will decrease. I feel the man of the house should have the final word and if a husband does all those things I mentioned above, the wife will not take him seriously. She'll basically think she can get anything out of him or make him do anything she wants him to do.

So basically I'm a little pessemistic about the whole husband-wife being best friends concept.

Your thoughts?

O Khan Saab

Respect does not come from "zor", it comes from ur personality.

If u r the type of figure that the family looks up to, u'll be respected even if u r humble&kind.