Advises and suggestions

girlie1 · February 6, 2010, 6:43pm

^ I don’t know man.

You both can get married without your parents’ blessings…but that will hurt your parents. It will destroy your reputation in our conservative desi society. “Good girls don’t run away from homes to get married.”

^Also, let’s say that you run away to get married. And the marriage fails. It may be harder for you to get married again with the “blemish” of elopement in your record.

I try my best to give advice that’s sound…and what I’m suggesting now may sound filmi…(can’t believe I’m suggesting it)…but you never know…things like this sometimes work. I know of a guy…who didn’t finish college…had no degree…really didn’t have the means to financially support a marriage…he was being financially supported by wealthy parents…his mom DID NOT LIKE THE GIRL…his whole family DID NOT LIKE THE GIRL (aunts, uncles, cousins)…but in the end his mother surrendered because she was afraid of “losing” her son.

^Sometimes (and I’ve seen this happen) parents give in when they see their kid looking depressed and withering away. So, your boyfriend can try the strategy of telling his mom that he has separated from you…and then he can carry on this drama of acting depressed/sad/restless…a complete DEVDAS…and maybe his mom will let go of his stubbornness at the miserable sight of her son. Maybe such acting (if it has not been attempted already) might work on her.

^You should maybe set a deadline for this relationship because you can’t wait forever for him. Life will pass you by.

Yes,we can give one more last try by doing this drama