So you two told the parents you're not in contact and have broken up... a few months later, your guy's mom will call your house again and talk to your parents. Since the prospective mother-in-law was led to believe there was no contact at all, then she finds out it's all a LIE... do you think the phone call will be a happy one or an angry one?
Let's guess angry.
What will your parents think? Do you think they'll say, "Wah beta, I'm so proud of you! You lied to us, but it's ok, the boyfriend is more important" or do you think there are higher chances of them being ashamed and getting upset that their daughter lied and is out to destroy the family's reputation?
Some time passes. The boyfriend's mother has threatened to disown him. If the parents don't agree, then you two get married without parental approval/acceptance...
Do you believe you'll have a wonderful marriage with this guy? If you get married without the guy's mother's approval, he may feel guilty later on. Afterall, the mother is a widow, alone, and he's her only son/child. The marriage could result in a distance between the mother and son... do you want to feel partly responsible for that? And who knows, he may even blame you, even though he too is responsible.
Don't put yourself in a situation where you might be made to feel guilty. Don't hurt your parents, lose their trust, and lower their reputation- they don't deserve this. And don't further lower your reputation in the boyfriend's mother's eyes.
If you really BELIEVE (NOT THINK) that no other decent, respectful guy who has a loving and accepting mother is fit to be your husband... then fine. But still STOP talking to your boyfriend. DON'T answer his calls. DON'T use the time to convince your parents. Don't make yourself out to be desperate. Forget about him for some time and do things that you were doing two years ago before you met him. Let him be the desperate one. Let him use the time to convince his mom so that she can respectfully go to your home with a rishta to your parents. THEN talk to your parents about him. If it doesn't work out, then MOVE ON- stop being a drama queen or coming up with more ideas to save your "relationship."
People will be more likely to remember you being desperate than him. If you keep in touch with him over the next few months... his mom will see you as a desperate and beghairat liar- is that the kind of daughter in-law a mother in-law desires?
REDEEM YOURSELF.
Good reply. I totally agree with you! This might sound rude, but I think you should grow up and step into the the real world instead of living in your own fantasy world...See things for as they are, not as you want them to be... Open your eyes and see the redflags. When your bf and his mother are like this b4 shadi, than imagine how things are going to be after shadi.......
lol but its true also
…koi nai maturity comes with time 